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The letters, emails, tributes and photos that are flowing in are so wonderfully healing for us to read. Many have asked to express their appreciation for these special words. Thank you, thank you, thank you.....

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Alec Bamford CUSO Thailand February 25, 2007	You can’t remember Charlie with anything but a smile, so here’s one of my memories that will, I hope, make you laugh for a moment, even through the tears. Because when Charlie’s spirit reads this, I know he’ll laugh. Quaker Services Lao, with a charity that I have to question, had sold Charlie this ancient yellow Volkswagen as the CUSO vehicle. And one day, he was driving me and Chanida and Randy Arnst to some NFE place on the Tha Deua road just outside Vientiane. Now I can’t quite figure why we put Chanida, by far the smallest, in the front, and me and Randy on the back seat, but we were tootling on quite happily (Charlie doing his ‘I’ll look at the road in the intervals between looking at the people I’m talking to’ routine). Then 2 things were said that you never want to hear in a car. Randy said ‘I smell burning’. And I said ‘My bum’s getting very hot.’ Charlie slammed on what passed for brakes on this contraption, turned off the ignition and yelled for everyone to get out as fast as possible. Now those of you who recall Charlie’s physical dimensions will realise that Charlie didn’t get into the Volkswagen as much as put it on. And VWs have only 2 doors. So while Chanida and Randy were piling out on their side, I was sitting with my arse slowly melting while Charlie was frantically extricating his knees and elbows from the steering wheel. We, and the car, survived. The combined weight on the back seat (and I will be grateful for no further comments on that) had driven the springs so far down that they were shorting the battery. A rubber floor mat was turned into an insulator and we were able to continue our journey safely. After a lengthy argument about who was getting the front seat. Photo of the yellow bug
Alexa All around the ACT February 25, 2007	I am deeply saddened that we have lost Charlie and offer condolences to his family and friends. Charlie inspired with passions, both beliefs and actions, which resonated with my vision for a better community. I loved his generosity of time and effort and interest. I hope his legacy is a kinder and more just world.
Alison Aggarwal CAA-[F]ANTAR February 25, 2007	Charlie, I will miss you, I am missing you. For me you were someone I really trusted to guide me as I charted a course through political waters. You were also one of the few people who I could really talk to in a way I can with so few. Thank you for so much. Love Alison
Alison Cleary Ex - CAA Friend and colleague February 25, 2007	The last time I saw Charlie was in Bangkok in 2001. We were both there for work and hadn't seen each other for about 3 years. We met together, with a couple of other CAA friends who were in Bangkok, for a night on the town. We spent the evening at an outdoor riverside restaurant, devouring fabulous Thai food and drinking way too much cheap Thai whiskey. We talked and argued about the work that we were both then doing and what had been happening in our lives since we had last seen each other. Charlie spoke passionately (as always) about his recent trip to Laos and ongoing Mekong issues. He spoke lovingly and proudly about the girls and about Pam. We swapped news and stories of mutual friends' adventures and lives. Later he showed me some photos from his 40th birthday - images of family and friends of all ages celebrating life together in the Canberra bush. The memory of this night captures for me all the things that we all love about Charlie. A trully good man who I will sorely miss. Alison Cleary
Alison Inglis Friend from Laos and Canberra February 25, 2007	Charlie you made us all feel so special, like we could actually change things... So full of love, compassion, endless enthusiasm. Even now you are bringing us together Charlie. I happen to still have the Greens election poster with you as centre-piece, looking out with such laughing eyes - thank-you Charlie.
Andrew Jenkins Friend in Laos February 25, 2007	We heard the news here in Dhaka last week, and hardly believed it. I cherish memories of long passionate debates at Charlie and Christine's in Vientiane whenever we came down from Luang Prabang. The hospitality was great and I always learned so much and left inspired. Thank you all so much for keeping his spirit alive. Andrew Jenkins.
Andrew Nette Friend February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie, It may not be original but I have to say that your passing has left me with so much I would like to say to you. It is almost a week since your tragic death, and I am still having difficulty accepting what has happened. At least you were in the water when you left us. Whether it was the Mekong River or the surf on the south New South Wales’ coast, you loved the water. I wonder what you would think of what has happened since that day. I suspect you would be a little embarrassed by all the tributes and the fuss that will accompany the memorial service. However, I know you would have loved the party afterwards. As a mutual friend of ours commented, lots of interesting people from all over the world will be there, it is exactly the type of party you would be expected to be at and which you would really enjoy. I can imagine the scene, you would be striding around the room with a half empty glass of red wine in your hand laughing loudly and greeting everyone with a big smile and one of those bone crushing hugs of yours. I have been thinking about our friendship over the last few days. Although we first met when in Laos, I would say we were never more than close acquaintances during that time. We became friends during the year and a bit when I was working for TERRA in Bangkok. We could have easily lost contact after we returned to Australia and lived in different cities, if it was not for the fact that Angela and I moved to Canberra. It was during those three years that we became close friends and during this time I have some of the fondest memories of you. It was a freezing day in early winter when I first arrived in Canberra. It got dark very early and there did not seem to be anyone on the streets. I severely doubted the wisdom of my move. You were happy for me to stay at your place that night and for at least a month afterwards, during which time you cooked for me, let me drink far more than my fair share of your red wine, and laid out all your networks and hooked me up with a lot of the people you knew. Things started looking up almost immediately. Your generosity with your house, your time, your experience and your friends is one of the many things I really admired about you, Charlie. You were not just an entertaining and gracious host, you introduced and connected people, and often in the early stages you were the glue that kept many of them together until they got to become friends in their own right. Sometimes there was a political strategy behind this (and brother there was nothing wrong with that), but more often than not I think you were just acting out of a sense of the importance of basic human solidarity and the need to strengthen it where ever you could. I respected the clarity of your views and the thought that went into them. You loved a good discussion and always put your points forcefully but at the same time you were rarely closed or dogmatic. If you did not know something you would gladly say so and were always ready to listen to and learn something new. There was absolutely no bullshit in you at all and you had a finely tuned sense of when people tried to feed it to you. I loved your optimism and your energy, even if sometimes it used to be exhausting. I have so many fond memories of you: the teasing we gave you when you decided to run for the legislative assembly and the fact that you had to, grudgingly, lift your dress sense; the numerous occasions you and I spent hassling AusAID and Treasury bureaucrats about the numerous disasters being propagated by the Asian Development Bank and the World Bank; all those times after I had moved back to Melbourne when I would come up to Parliament and finish the day by dropping in on you, Pam and whoever else was around, and we would talk, laugh and drink wine until late. That included the last time I saw you alive. Anyway, it is getting late and I need to draw this to a close, so I will end with a quote from a recently read book: “At first, when we truly love someone, our greatest fear is that the loved one will stop loving us. What we should fear and dread, of course, is that we won’t stop loving them, even after they’re dead and gone.” I still love you, Charlie, and I am really going to miss you and everything that you brought to my life. Travel well, my friend. Andrew
Anette Becker Lundell Friend February 25, 2007	Charlie/Gösta! We met during the years I lived with my family in Sydney. We had fun, you, your brother, my brother and I. I remember once, when you and Andrew were going to stay at our place and you both came with the bus. You had to bring some photos with you and they were not to be left or forgotten on the bus. I can't remember if it was you or your brother who had the envelope with the photos tied to your body! We all thought it was very funny, and practical. I remember the energy and friendly atmosphere that always sourrounded you and was not surprised to find your name and pictures on the internet. The sites tell of the work you have done and still will be done in the future. You are a seed-sower. What you have started will grow and flourish for a long time in the future. Gösta, thank you for your friendship, memories and inspiration. Anette
Angela Savage Friend from Laos to Canberra and beyond February 25, 2007	Dear Pam, Tina, Kari, Anna Lena and all family and friends of Charlie, Please accept my deepest condolences following the death of your beloved partner, father, son, brother, and our friend Charlie. His loss breaks my heart - I can hardly bear to read the messages and look at his photos on the website because it keeps making me cry. But the messages are a wonderful tribute to him and a powerful reminder of the lives he touched throughout the world. Reading over the tributes, I marvel at how Charlie managed to have so many friends yet make us all feel special to him. Charlie made the world a better place for being here. There are not many people you can say that about. I feel privileged to have known him. In the midst of such terrible sadness, I guess we are all still looking to Charlie for inspiration and hope, seeking strength from the example that he set in life - drawing on that legedary energy of his. But there's no getting around it: it's just not fair that he's dead, and I will miss him more than I can say. Please know I'm keeping you close in my thoughts and heart and I will see you at the memorial service next week. With love, Angela
Anna Tito Work mate and friend February 25, 2007	Peace. Anna
Anne Martinelli Friend and fellow community campaigner from CAA February 25, 2007	So many beautiful words have been written already and so much of it resonates so strongly with me that I hardly know what I can possibly add. When I have tried to describe to others in this last week the person that Charlie was, I just keep coming up with "the sort of person the world cannot afford to lose". The world needs a thousand, or a million Charlies. But of course there could only be one, and I can't imagine how those closest to him are coping with the huge hole his passing will leave. Considering I only knew Charlie a few years, I'm amazed at how many and how vivid are my memories of him (or maybe not that amazed really, given the larger-than-life person that he was). A few favourites - a snowball fight at Guthega with Charlie delighting in our Mekong visitors' first experience of snow; a great night at the pub during the Accounting for Development conference, with Charlie talking a million miles an hour on a high with all the things that had happened that day - who said what, and what a pompous ass so and so was and what it all meant for the campaign and what we could do now and...and...and..; always feeling so included and valued as a participant in campaign strategy conversations even though I had so little of substance to contribute; my first visit to the Canberra CAA office and the immediate infectious feeling of boundless enthusiasm and energy and great work being done that Charlie and the rest of that fantastic team created; meals at Charlie's house which had all the essential ingredients - delicious food, plenty of wine and great conversations out on the back verandah. The last few days since hearing the news have seemed so surreal - and lonely - so it has been wonderful to be able to read all these beautiful tributes and feel part of a community all as shocked and saddened by his loss as I am - those closest to him of course so much more. So thankyou so much to those responsible for this website - it unfailingly makes me cry but I keep being drawn back. To Charlie's family, please accept my deepest sympathy and condolences for your terrible loss. Pam, I am so sorry. Sorry for your loss, sorry for all the times I have thought of you and Charlie in the last year and not called, and so sorry that you have been dealt this cruellest blow after all you have endured in the last few years. I hope you are able to draw on your amazing inner strength once again to help you through this.
Anne McPherson February 25, 2007	A tribute to Charlie Pahlman and an expression of loving sympathy to those he loved I want to first express my deepest sympathy to Pam, Tina, Kari, Christine, Anna Lena and other close friends and relations of Charlie. Pam, I don’t think I have ever met you, but Eric Brocken has spoken of you. Tina and Kari, you will not remember, but I did meet you when you visited the EarthCare Centre Fair in Richmond with your dad about 2 years ago. Christine, I do remember you from Richmond days, and Anna Lena, I remember meeting you a couple of times too. I can’t even begin to imagine your grief and sense of loss, but you have all been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be in the weeks ahead. Like so many others I was shocked to hear of Charlie’s death, and since then there has been a veil of sadness hanging lightly over me. And I have been wondering why his death affected me so much. I wonder, firstly because I have been emotionally exposed to eight deaths this month, from that of a much loved 91 year old aunt in England, to that of a 64 year old friend who had cancer and went into a coma hours after her son’s wedding, to that of a 36 year old father of two who died following a violent bashing at a New Year’s Eve party. And secondly, I wonder because I didn’t know Charlie really well, and had most contact with him about 20 years ago. On reflection, I suppose there are two reasons. One, of course, is the tragic nature of it – an accident, on a family holiday, to someone so full of life and in the prime of his life. But even more is the respect and admiration I had for him, and in some ways a strong affinity. And if I am affected in this way, no wonder there are so many people in so many places who are both mourning his death and celebrating his life at the same time. When I first knew Charlie I was twice his age but that was never a barrier to friendship. I knew Charlie through Eric, so sustainability and environmental concerns must have been a common thread at the beginning. Then Charlie and Eric became involved through me in a project in Windsor that offered both accommodation for young homeless adults and the possibility for them and others to be involved in a work collective, that among other things ran a vegetarian café called Curly’s. This was all happening in the mid-80’s. On one occasion we were having difficulty with the local Council, and Charlie and I were delegated to speak at a Council meeting in support of the project. I remember a group of us having a meal here at our home, ostensibly to prepare ‘our case’, but it was an evening of laughter and talk about many things. I don’t remember the details, but we must have done a reasonable job, because the project continued. I had a long-standing interest in global development issues, so was excited and encouraged when Charlie went to Laos, and was delighted to get occasional bits of news on the grapevine. Then when he was in Canberra I somehow heard that he was involved with ANTaR. My main involvement with ANTaR was going on the Sea of Hands tour around Australia in 1998, but I have been active in a variety of reconciliation activities in Western Sydney since that time. I am now working with the Uniting Church in Mt Druitt and have a young indigenous colleague, so reconciliation is a thread running through all our work. Charlie was a man of honesty and integrity. He did not just support various campaigns for environmental and social justice from the edge – he immersed himself in them and gave his skills, his time and his energy wholeheartedly. He lived his commitment in a way that few ever do. And he seemed so happy doing it – not overburdened or obligated. His enthusiasm and his humour were infectious, and I wish I had had the opportunity to know him more in recent years. Charlie lived life to the full – and though I know there must have been difficult and painful times too, I think there was a richness and satisfaction in it for him. There is no doubt that the world around him was enriched by his life. He had so much more to give – to you, his loved ones, and to the wider community. It seems so unfair that his life was cut short. And yet we can celebrate his life and his many gifts with a sense that his strong spirit will live on. It will not be much comfort to you now, but I hope that in the future you will be strengthened in this way. Next time I feel wearied in the struggle, I will think of Charlie and see his winsome smile and I’m sure it will help keep me going! Sorry I can’t be there with you in Canberra tomorrow, but I will certainly join in the toast at 9 pm – to Charlie and his abundant life.
Annie Close Canberra February 25, 2007	Charlie You burst into my life with a big warm grin and helped me feel at home with a bunch of strangers. You helped me to see that my contribution was worthwhile and valuable. You did this for so many of us – you had an amazing talent to encourage us to pool our commitment and energy in ways that created good and positive action. You were so generous – with your time, your energy, your kindness and your wicked sense of fun. So many of us have poured our troubles into your attentive ear and gotten back good solid advice and a new perspective, helping us to let go of some of our “stuff” and to get on with living well. You seemed to be able to make time stretch to include all the demands on you - although sometimes I worried that you didn’t have enough time for yourself. You could be eloquent and forthright in your criticism of those in power who didn’t use their power for good, but I can’t recall a single bad word about anyone who was trying to do something positive. Your brain moved with wondrous speed and agility – and you spoke and moved that way as well. Yet in our conversations you were deeply present, caring and “in the moment.” You seemed to tap into the “big picture” of the wider human family and feel deeply the injustices and suffering of others – your compassion was practical, useful, grounded. You opened your heart to people all around the world, linked us up, helped us feel connected to each other. Such an honour to have shared a bit of your life, Charlie, you’ll continue to be an inspiration to me and so many others. I’m never going to forget your big warm grin and those wonderful bear hugs. Love, Annie
Aviva Imhof The Mekong! February 25, 2007	I first met Charlie at a meeting in Washington DC almost 10 years ago. I had just started working on Mekong issues with AID/WATCH, and was eager to meet the guy who sent us all those faxes telling us what was going on in Laos. I remember sitting with him for hours over beer and food, grilling him about Laos, the political dynamics, the Mekong, and probably a thousand other things. That was the first of a large number of discussions (and some heated debates!) we had over the years over beers, and in various parts of the world. Even though I hadn't been in contact with Charlie for the past couple of years, I thought of him often. His energy was so infectious, his spirit so warm and vibrant, his passion so intense that it is impossible to conceive of him not in this world anymore. I will miss you Charlie, you left in us all a piece of your energy and spirit, and for that we are truly grateful. Rest peacefully, and deepest condolences to Pam, Tina, Kari, Christine and all the family - I can't imagine the pain and sorrow you are feeling right now. Aviva
Barbara Chevalier February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie Less than an hour ago, Regan rang & said: "Charlie Pahlman drowned in Samoa". It was so incongruent, so unbelievable, I had to ask her to say it again slowly. How can you be gone so suddenly? How can that be meant to be? So much life force would have made old bones, with so much contribution to make. It's just occurred to me how strange that you should die by drowning on a Pacific island so soon after a tsunami that took the lives of maybe 200,000 less than three weeks ago. Now you are one of them, and we share their grief more closely. Your fellow-feeling for people from other cultures during your life is reflected, and maybe even continues, in your death. I miss you already. What a loss to us all. You are/were such a warm person, Charlie, and warmed me always with your friendly welcoming smile & eyes full of friendship. You were so good at what you did, facilitating, making things happen ~ a mixture of sensitivity, experience, practical wisdom, good sense & integrity. The story that I am going to make up about you is that, much as Canberra needed you, the post-tsunami community needed volunteers far more, and that you were called to continue The Great Work where your wonderful spirit & intelligence were most needed. I admired you very much, and loved you simply. I honour your life, now & always. 21 January 05
Ben Clanchy friend February 25, 2007	I feel stunned. Just when you feel that the world cannot touch you any longer, in that exact moment you realise that you are wrong. The world has texture and meaning. Charlie was, still is, one of those rare people who have the ability to reach out and touch, to give meaning to things - to pages of words, to people and to things. His infectious laughter, his energy - what energy! He could light up the world in a heartbeat. Charlie, you touched the sky every day and brought a little piece of it down to share with the rest of us. We will always carry a piece of that sky with us, wherever we go.
Bernie Lovegrove friend February 25, 2007	Hi Charlie, I was hollidaying in Port Maquarie when I heard the news of your tragic death. I had to pull the car over to take stock of the shocking news and just sit there in disbelief for quite some time. Well mate what a great set of tributes on this site - all so richly deserved. I wont repeat the inspirational and moving words of others - just wanted to add my voice to the many who admired you and were inspired by you. To Pam and family my heart goes out to you. Go gently. Love Bernie
Bi Pradith Laotian friend February 25, 2007	When I first met Charlie in Laos, I thought "Who is this person? He's so passionate about his work for the Lao community!!!!" It inspired me to get out there and do the same. If a Swedish Australian can love my country - I could do no less. Thank you Charlie for your joy of life and laughter. My love and prayers go out to Christine, Tina, Kari, Pam and his family.
Bob Brown February 25, 2007	29 January 2005 To Charlie Pahlman Charlie: your warm, welcoming smile is fixed in my mind. Just so recently you and I talked about the world and the need for an intelligent humility in politics. ‘Here is a future member of parliament for the Greens’, I thought. ‘He’s committed. Caring. Daring to tackle the selfishness of modern politics.’ I felt good. But now the tide of life has swept you into death, and away from what might have been. Perhaps you’d be surprised by the clear, sparkling view I have of you because we spent so little time together. But you made me feel good – that is, you gave me strength. You still do. So Charlie, your generosity has survived that Samoan tide. Thank you. I send you a return smile on the breeze. And an everlasting hug. Bob Brown
Bob Makinson February 25, 2007	It was a lesser wave that took our friend. Not the great one – just a small wave, on a perfect day. The glory of a coral reef, far away, is richer now for the colours of his life. And so are we. Friends gathered in several cities when they heard. Some have not yet heard. Some have heard, but are alone. They are not alone. We will all gather soon. Times like this, the mobile phone proves its worth, but love has a stronger call. Life comes from the sun and from the ocean, and to earth and air and water we return. We went down to the sea that afternoon, it seemed the natural thing to do. Between grief and rage, we wanted to hate the sea, the same sea that took him away, the shining sea we have loved all our lives, a sea that today is as gentle as … as warm as … as blue … It is the same sea, and hate has no place here; we stood in salt water and added our tears. Our friend, this friend of ours … there are a thousand words for what he was, and is, but there is no single word. Are people like him so rare that our language has no word? We must look elsewhere. Mahatma – great soul. Who welcomes the stranger who creates community where was none who gives vision who makes the unthought, possible who makes the possible occur who is warm who kindles warmth in others who gives of himself who leads others to give, freely, gladly whose commitment was unshakeable to peace to freedom to love who gives us strength and always will. 21 January 2005
Brenda Malcolm Colleague in the HACC/DS Network - Canberra February 25, 2007	There was silence in the office when I told my colleagues the news of Charlie's accidental death. Slowly we spoke haltingly with disbelief at this news. Our team was completely overwhelmed by the event and would like to pass on their condolences to all at ATCOSS and to Charlie's family. Charlie had a tremendous spirit and generous heart -he gave us all so much as he worked within the sector in Canberra. He will be very much missed - he was one of us - he was supportive, organising, challenging, thoughtful, concerned and considerate - and best of all he know how to handle the PA equipment at the network meetings and keep things on track at the annual HACC Planning Days! How we will miss you Charlie and all the things you were to so many of us. I am sure your spirit will live on within us all Brenda and all at Community Connections
Bridget Gardner Friend from Laos February 25, 2007	Inspirational, wonderfully warm, absolute pleasure and privelege to have known and to have shared some precious time. It was all too short... but treasured. Charlie will always be remembered by me with a warm smile.
Bruce Stephenson Former office staff member and Secretary of ACT Mental Health Consumer Network February 25, 2007	There are some people who come along in one's life who are instantly attractive. Their attraction has not necessarily anything to do with physical and any other external attritubtes, nor has it anything to do with their occupation, nor the eloquence of their communication style. So, what is it about such human beings? Why, in this society, we are lead to believe, that attraction is about physical beauty, "success", wealthy, powerful - all those attritbutes of which such human beings care little about, does one find them such an inspiration? For me, it's because they have learnt to accept themselves and thus willing to accept the rest of us for who we are. They are the "givers" of humanity and yet know how to care for themselves as well as those they love and love them in return. For me, and I suspect for most of us, Charlie was one of those human beings. He was one of the most non-judgemental human beings I have had the great previlige to have in my world. Thank you Charlie and those who encouraged him.
Caroline Munns George Villaflor Aboriginal barrister at law on behalf of the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Unit -Office for Children, Youth and family Support February 25, 2007	We are saddened to hear of the end of this journey for Charlie. Mates like him were crucial for Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islanders to move forward with reconciliation. His commitment to establish a decent relationship with Indigenous peoples has not gone unnoticed by us. His efforts and the many like him has allowed us to gain strength in the vision of a united Australia that respects and enjoys Indigenous culture and all that we hope to share with the rest of Australians. That day will come & Charlie will be remembered. So long mate, farewells are always hard, final ones more so. We cannot afford to loose more like you.
Carolyn Minchin and Geoff Bagnall Health Care Consumers February 25, 2007	Dear Pam, Though we did not know your partner, our thoughts and hearts are with you now, and with your and Charlie's family and friends. love from Carolyn and Geoff.
Cassidy Buxton friend and CAA colleague February 25, 2007	I received the news of Charlie's death on a bus in Thailand, just 3 days ago. This news is probably the saddest thing I have encountered as a young woman and it has taken a few days to gather the courage to add my tribute. I will remember Charlie as: A wonderful friend who bought out the best in me A ture believer in the greater purpose of life A man whose passion touched, taught and inspired many A limitless source of energy and enthusiasm A wild party animal A loving, warm and tender father to his beautiful daughters A dedicated, focused and honest worker A good cook and a fine boggle player To Pam, Tina and Kari His love for you was so immense and will always remain alive in you. May this love carry you through this sorrowful time, and bless your lives with his light forever.
Catherine Phillipps work colleague/friend February 25, 2007	I was so saddened and shocked to hear that Charlie had died. His life was one of verve, passion and commitment. He was 'working for the people' and 'he believed in liberty and giving people choice and the world outside his window was as loud as his own voice.' I grieve for Pam and girls, Tina and Kari, Anna-Lena and family. They will be the brave ones that have to go on without Charlie. We as friends can only know and understand a minute part of their grief and loss. Healing will be in remembering Charlie's love. Catherine
Cathy Bennett colleague February 25, 2007	I first met Charlie in Laos, he was working with CAA. After some 20 years with AusAID I have seen lots of "projects" and expats working in developing countries. Charlie was one of the very few people I have seen who genuinely empowers people. His enthusiasm and concern for a better outcome for the average person was tangible, infectious and inspiring. He had strong opinions, often different from the Australian government policy. While he actively debated and attacked ideas and policy - he never blamed the messenger. He wanted to change and have an impact on policies he considered flawed. He was always honest, open, and fair. I enjoyed his intellect, his rigour in debate, his true compassion. I felt it important to add to this record that his loss will be felt deeply within the Bureaucracy as well as outside. We need more people like Charlie to challenge and debate with bureaucrats, and provide a different, but well argued perspective. These days Bureaucrats can only be convinced to stick their necks out and argue up the line by solid facts and good arguments, not just good intentions. If frank and fearless advice is to survive in the public sector it is the likes of Charlie, and those he has influenced, who will make it happen. A toast to the contestibility of ideas, thanks Charlie.
Chris Ansted Friend through Community Aid Abroad, ACTCOSS and Pam February 25, 2007	Another acrostic, sorry. Cry out against this theft Hear no placatory words And ask no questions, but rather Rage against the randomness of life and death. Let the world know It has not the power Even one jot of this man's love and work to erase.
Chris Chevalier Friend and fellow development worker February 25, 2007	Charlie was a diamond. I first met Charlie in 1999 after we both applied for the APHEDA Pacific position and he was working for Oxfam CAA. How ironic that he should have died in the Pacific. He talked passionately about the Mekong and development - the real community based participatory kind, not the institutionalised industrial kind. He was a first class development worker, mixing good practice and critical theory. He made a brilliant transition from overseas to domestic community activist while keeping his connections and interest in global issues, overseas development and the environment. His intelligence and commitment were sparkling and inspiring. One of my last meetings with him was in Dickson with Pam just before the election. He was so fully alive and switched on. When i confessed that I still hadn't got my citizenship and couldn't vote, he said, "Well, what am I doing wasting my time talking to you!" and roared with laughter. His commitment and energy during the campaign surely deserved election and no doubt he would have been a brilliant MLA and worthy successor to Kerry Tucker. Our last meeting was on New Year's Eve at the Remnants party - big hug, big laughter and serious chat about APHEDA, whom he always liked and supported. He had a special gift for making everyone feel special. All these beautiful and moving tributes are testimony to the man, his personality and his work. It reminds me of the power of each individual to make a difference. And that we shouldn't wait for people to die before we tell them how much we love them, make a difference to our lives or inspire us. Charlie will live on in all of us. I'm sure many of us will think of him and seek inspiration from him when things look bad or depressing. "What would Charlie have thought, said, or done?" is my motto when I look at his photo in the APHEDA office. To Pam, Tina, Kari, Christine, Anna Lena, Ragna and Andrew - I hope this outpouring of love and testimony helps to strengthen you. I'm sure that you will come to terms with his death through the same courage and love that Charlie showed during his very special life. All our love Chris, Maggie, Kathy and Manoa
Chris Gymer Colleague during the election campaign 2004 February 25, 2007	It's clear from the tributes here displayed that Charlie's impact on the planet during his life was substantial, and universally for the good. He impressed me immediately we met with his humour, his passion, his compassion and his intelligence, and it was fun and fulfilling to work with him during the campaign. While it is so sad that he has gone, we can draw much inspiration from his life, and his family can know that he lives on in the memory of those who knew and loved him, and in the work he did. These memories, and the benefits he wrought during his brief sojourn with us will be his memorial. With love and my thoughts to Charlies family.
Christal George campaigner February 25, 2007	i would ride or wander past the markets at ANU and smile at Charlie's presence at the ACTGreens Stall, his presence providing the opportunity for students and roustabouts to get involved in green issues. Thank you charlie.
Clair Boyer February 25, 2007	farewell Charlie farewell to Charlie rising up with grace from the moment of his birth the world was a better place he seemed to be immortal truly divine he has passed through the godly portal to drink the godly wine 21 January 2005.
Cynthia Shannon friend, ally in social justice work, colleague in community development work CT February 25, 2007	Charlie has been sitting next to my computer at work every day, ever since the Memorial Service, 12 days ago. I love the photo right there beside me - it's like he is with me all the time. His smile and spirit just keeps shining towards me and through me. I have just been looking on the Website at some of the photos from that magnificent Memorial Service in Canberra that I was so fortunate to be a part of. Beautiful photos of your life, Charlie, that it seems you led to your absolute fullest, creating community and love wherever you were on the planet. And I came to the photo of the Sea of Hands at the Party at Corroboree Park Hall, which I was not able to attend. Immediately I saw the photo of the hands from the Sea of Hands a lot of tears spontaneously welled up in me. They, for me, encapsulate all that dear wonderful Charlie stood for - hope, inspiration, creativity, colour, lots of people coming together to express their humanity, reconciliation so deep in our hearts, love of community and real connection, our spirit that binds us all, the garden of Peace and Love that gets replanted again and again and again. And you were always there, Charlie, at every major rally, walk or gathering... smiling, welcoming, encouraging, being positive and loving and ALWAYS gently affirming me in my life. I don't know quite how you did that, but you did. And it was one of the many special talents that you so graciously shared - it seems amongst ALL of us. I remember so vividly at the Memorial Service Johnny Huckle and Helen Moran, with their gorgeous little daughter, singing so superbly their song JUSTICE WILL BE DONE - an Anthem for all time, for all the world. For me that performance and song embodied all you stood for. It was such a fitting tribute to you Charlie, your life, your work, your spirit, your love and commitment to humanity. I will always miss you. And yet you are always here. Thank you for your grace, your gentleness, your calmness, your fun, all your insights and your great thinking. And above all, your very special brand of loving and giving to our world. Thank you, thank you for all you have been and all that you have left inside of us. I send my sincerest love to your brave and beautiful family ... Kari, Tina, Anna Lena, Pam, Andrew. Thank you for all the beautiful thoughts and memories you shared with us at the Memorial Service. Many Blessings Cynthia Shannon Canberra 11 February, 2005
Dan Stubbs Friend , former Head of ACTCOSS February 25, 2007	CHARLIE PAHLMAN You are so many thing to me, confidant, inspiration, frustration, ally, antagonist, protagonist, counsel and friend. Your honesty, love, passion, spectacular lack of ego and undying belief in us, finds us wanting for how to go on. So there's unfinished business in all the worlds you moved in. However the juggernaut Charlie Pahlman does not stop quite so easily. You got under our skin and told us we're amazing until we believed. By changing us you changed the world and out of this unjust event will see one of the most just people I know live on in us. And so, despite what you think, you did make a difference. The future will be harder for your passing, but all the better for what you created. Thanks so much. Dan Stubbs.
Dave Hodgkin February 25, 2007	What a sad day ! I just found out through Nicky Coles, what a tragic loss I have such a fond memory of drinking whiskey till dawn with Charlie and Cooper at my farewell party, the last two standing :) sadness sadness loved that man Dave (from Maelaboh, Aceh)
David Cooper friend and comrade February 25, 2007	jesus yusta, where the hell is the silver lining this time! farewell for now brother, it's been an indescribable joy to share your journey for a while. all my loving thoughts, David
David Kibbey Charlie and I were fellow Molonglo candidates February 25, 2007	I was able to pass my immediate condolences to Pam, Tina, Kari and Charlie's many friends and relatives through Jane Donnelly but also wanted to follow up with a tribute to a very worthy human being. Charlie and I were adversaries at the last ACT Election but I always felt that he would have been an excellent member of our Assembly. Being on the hustings, one gets a unique look at other candidates and is able to sense and measure their motivation, intellect, vision and sincerity. Charlie had all of these essential traits in abundance. In addition he had an X factor, call it charisma if you wish, but that indefinable appeal to others that sets their caution aside and sais follow me. I feel very priveledged to have been able to lock horns with him and to fight the battle of ideas which is politics but both of us with the very best interests of all Canberrans in mind. All we can do now is remember him and bring some of his vitality and human values to whatever it is we are doing. Like you, I will always remember him too. He was a good man. Yours sincerely, David Kibbey
David Matthews Work colleague February 25, 2007	I could not believe the tragic news when I heard it on the radio standing in that petrol station. There is part of me that still thinks it isn't really true, and that you will rejoin us all. Reading the vast range of heartfelt and poetic tributes speaks volumes for who you were and the impact you made on people. My contact with you through ANTAR, CAA (where you kindly offered me support during the republican referendum) and then at ATCOSS was always rewarding and positive. I thank you for all that you have done for a better planet with better people. My thoughts and best wishes to your family and all of your freiends.
David Turbayne and Vilaisan Campbell February 25, 2007	We are deeply saddened by Charlie's death. We will miss Charlie's love of life and people and all the enthusiasm and vitality he brought to what he did. Good on you Charlie - you were an inspiration. All our sympathy and best wishes to his family.
David Webster Former Chair, ACT Shelter February 25, 2007	I didn't know Charlie as well as many others have but I have known him well enough to share in the intense personal grief of those who have known him better. What a tragically sad death! What a wonderfully contributing life! I am glad that it will not soon be forgotten. David Webster.
Deb Foskey February 25, 2007	From every photograph Charlie's smile, Charlie's love, bathe us in his light. This light, this love, weaves a pattern across the planet. It links Laotian villagers with men in suits, revealing the connections between us all. It enfolds his girls, caresses his partner, embraces his mother. It warms his friends as they taste the strange new journey of life without Charlie.
Denis Boutin Friend and colleague CUSO Lao February 25, 2007	Dear friends and family, We are very sad to hear that Charlie has left us. Even though we haven’t seen him for the past ten years, we always thought we would have opportunities to meet again in the future. When we were in Lao, we have become very attached to Charlie and his family. I feel very privilege that he was on my pathway. His passionate way of working, his total devotion to the causes he believed were just, his strong involvement into social and political issues, his sensitivity to others, his care and support to other individuals when they needed, his deep respect for different values and perspectives, and finally his profound love for his daughters and his admiration for Christine: All of these have been a great source of inspiration when we were close to him! His friendship and the long discussions we could have together have contributed significantly to forge my vision of sustainable development. It is a great loss for us and it feels like if something in us has gone, like if I lost a big brother! Charlie was a pillar in those efforts for building a better world. Thank you for what you brought to us. We send all our loves to all of his friends and family. Our thoughts are with you, Tina, Kari and Christine! Denis Boutin Quebec City, CANADA
Di Lucas February 25, 2007	Charlie, I will miss you - your warmth, ever ready smile, your laugh, your commitment and energy. Since I heard the news my thoughts have been with you constantly. You are an inspiration. It is a tragedy too hard to believe and my heart goes out to your loved family and friends.
Ed Wensing Long time member of ACTCOSS February 25, 2007	In more than 30 years that I have been involved with ACTCOSS, never have we lost a member of staff under such tragic circumstances. Charlie was an honoured and valued member of staff who worked tirelessly for the community and especially those less fortunate than others. His commitment and quiet pervasive persistence are attributes that ACTCOSS will sorely miss. My sincere condolences go to his family, close friends and the team at ACTCOSS. Canberra is the poorer for his untimely death. Ed
Eileen OBrien colleague in ACT community sector February 25, 2007	Charlie Pahlman, such a remarkable man, non-stop enthusiasm and energy, a smile and heart as big as they come. He made a difference in the world every day, simply by being who he was. How much we will miss him, but how fortunate we all are to have known him. Thanks, Charlie!
Elizabeth Morgan February 25, 2007	Charlie is one of those people we have the privelige of meeting a few times in our lives - generous, loving, wise, passionate, warm, intelligent, challenging, ever respectful and always optimistic. His death is a tragedy and it is hard to understand why such random acts take people the world cannot afford to lose and impact on lovely families who have already had to deal with their share of challenges, we cannot imagine how you must feel. While the world is richer for his having walked upon it for his 44 years - it is also sadder for his untimely death. His death has left me with a deep sadness and wondering 'what would Charlie say?' I will always treasure our contact Charlie and wish I had spent more time with you in the time we worked together professionally. That cup of coffee was put off once too often. Our kindest thoughts to Pam and his family from Elizabeth Morgan
Elysebeth Fraser-Price ACTCOSS aka Fiona s mum February 25, 2007	Hi Charlie I met you through Fiona when she was working with you at ACTCOSS and got to know you from oh so brief meetings at the office. Your smile brightened up the place. You always had a friendly word, a joke, comfort or support for anyone who needed it. Thank you for all the kindness you showed me. I am sad because you are no longer here with us but I am happy that you chose to share your light, love of life and laughter with us even if only for so short a time. You have left behind a great legacy of warmth and compassion which will never be forgotten. I wish you joy on your next great adventure. Elysebeth
Felicity Volk Dear friend made in Laos, cherished in Canberra, loved always February 25, 2007	I got home late on Friday night to find an email waiting from Bill Robichaud in Vientiane who said he'd just heard through Bruce Shoemaker that Charlie had died while snorkelling in Samoa. I couldn't believe it, thought there had to be a mistake. Tragically not. It was kind of strange to get the news from Vientiane, via two American friends, about a tragedy in Samoa involving a dear soul who lives only a few suburbs away from me in Canberra. Globalisation, huh?! I think Charlie would have appreciated the irony. Charlie was an immaculate spirit, a loyal and committed friend and, in the words of Bill Robichaud, a bright, passionate flame of good. I feel his passing keenly. He was beautiful with my kids, Isabella and Poppy, and they were very fond of him. He was beautiful with me too, and I loved him. The world seems a little chillier, the company in the next life improving all the time. We had a subdued weekend, around which grief wound itself, and tightened. The girls and I watched Peter Pan on Saturday night, chanting with Wendy, Peter and the lost boys as we always do in the final scenes, "I do believe in fairies, I do, I do" to help Tinkerbell's recovery. When I was putting the kids to bed Isabella said, "If we say 'I do believe in Charlie, I do, I do' he might get better too." I liked this. So we said it several times and prayed that wherever Charlie was he could feel what we were thinking and saying about him. Four year old Isabella has undertaken a sort of stocktake of every gift Charlie gave her and Poppy, and has crafted and repeated many times the simple story of his death. 'Charlie was in the ocean, he hit his head on a rock and has blood on his forehead and he died.' To this she usually adds, 'I like the beach' as if reassuring the sea that it was not to blame, these things happen. Or perhaps reassuring herself and the rest of us. I’m not so different from Isabella. I have searched out a Maori pendant Charlie brought back from New Zealand for me sometime ago. It was the Hei Matau, fish hook symbol representing prosperity, abundance and fertility. Wearing it is meant to be a sign of respect for the sea and its creatures and it's regarded as a good luck charm providing safety and protection while travelling over water. I guess irony is some sort of defence mechanism in my case – helps to blunt the grief. I find the pendant a reassuring presence against my skin. The kids rub it and Isabella says, "I can feel Charlie there". Out of the mouth of babes. On Saturday evening, the first night after I heard the news, TV was on with “Parkinson” airing as I pottered around doing end of day chores. Ronan Keating was the musical interlude for the evening. His song, “I hope you dance”, was a glove-fit for the day. I watched and listened, dumbfounded – it seemed like Charlie was singing the song, albeit in a very unlikely, schmick, ex-boys band guise…but you know Charlie, he had such a keen sense of humour, an embrace of the absurd, why not appear to me as Ronan Keating? I hope you dance I hope you never lose your sense of wonder You get your fill to eat, but always keep that hunger May you never take one single breath for granted God forbid love ever leave you empty handed I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance and when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance, I hope you dance I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance Never settle for the path of least resistance Living might mean taking chances, but they're worth taking Loving might be a mistake but it's worth making Don't let some hell bent heart leave you bitter When you come close to selling out, reconsider Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance (time is a wheel in constant motion always) I hope you dance (rolling us along) I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder) I hope you dance (where those years have gone) I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean, Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens, Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance, And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, dance, I hope you dance, I hope you dance (time is wheel in constant motion always) I hope you dance (rolling us along) I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder) I hope you dance (where those years have gone) (tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder) (where those years have gone) So I pass on this message which I feel came from Charlie - a message for which I’m profoundly grateful. May we never take one single breath for granted. Dance. Love to you Charlie, to the little bits of yourself that you planted so lovingly in each of us here and which we will continue to nurture, protect and delight in throughout our years. Felicity and family PS Moe Moe – A Maori lullaby Sleep sweet dreams and breathe gently Sleep sweet dreams my child Familiar essence, take comfort Sleep sweet dreams my child Sleep sweet dreams and breathe gently Sleep sweet dreams my child Sleep sweet dreams my child
Fiona May ACTCOSS General Committee February 25, 2007	I remember, so clearly, the last time I met with Charlie. It was only days before he left for Samoa and he just lit up from within as he talked about his forthcoming holiday. I was looking at some indigenous dot paintings, and being in one of those busy head spaces (where so many of us spend so much time), I commented to Charlie that I just wouldnt be able to do that, too much detail. Charlie's response was "thats the point isnt it, its the process thats important" ( I can still hear him say it in his own unique voice) In so few words he recalled for me the importance and meaning to be found in the process, that the outcome could be perfect if the process is meaningful. He reminded me of the value of patience, dilligence, time and effort in the detail. Thank you for your wisdom Charlie. Thank you also for sharing your wisdom so freely. You were so very warm and embracing of others and their values Yours is a huge loss, on so many levels You are so very missed.
Fiona Miller Australian Mekong friend February 25, 2007	Charlie was to me, like to so many, a friend, a guide and a mentor. He has guided so many of us in our work on the Mekong. He kept our eyes on the issues at the heart of our concern: community. He always encouraged us to keep focused on the people of the Mekong, their livelihoods, their ecosystems, their aspirations and their right to define development. His strategic thinking was so valuable in many a campaign. Charlie’s passion for community also meant his enthusiasm for bringing people together and making everyone feel part of something important and worthwhile. Charlie was so inclusive in his relations with people, and his generosity was truly inspiring. He was generous with his time, his ideas, his home and his love. For someone so busy and with so many commitments, Charlie had an amazing capacity to make all his friends feel special and valued, and to give us that lift (and hug!) when we needed it. I was always inspired by his ability to argue clearly and passionately without aggression or ego. He had an empathy that allowed him to reach across gulfs. He was always eager to try and persuade, but always open to hearing others’ perspectives. His enthusiasm was infectious. He bonded so many of us together in our shared principles and beliefs. He gave many of us the strength to take on life’s challenges. Often whenever I struggle with a difficult issue I think: what would Charlie consider the most appropriate thing to do? I know Charlie’s voice will continue to echo in my head. I think the reason why Charlie has touched so many and is respected by so many is because he lived his philosophy. He was completely sincere in his words and his actions, he had such conviction and passion for his beliefs. He would never resort to pessimism, the issues at stake are too important for that. Whenever I walked into Charlie’s house I always had a strong sense of walking into a loving home. No matter how busy Charlie was his girls (Tina and Kari) were never far away from his thoughts. My deep condolences to Kari and Tina, Pam and her girls, Anna Lena, Christine and the rest of his family. I hope the words collected here on this site give you all comfort. As I write this I am sitting far away from Australia and the Mekong in snowy, cold Stockholm. I shared in Charlie's global toast. I feel sad I never had a chance to share my impressions and experiences of Sweden with him, to hear his memories of his homeland. I also feel sad being away from the community of friends who are all feeling this loss too. Of course, there were so many more conversations still to have. The world, more than ever, needs people like Charlie who share his passion for community and concern for justice. He would want us to keep our eyes on these things. We will all miss you Charlie. With love, Fiona.
Fran Murray Friend February 25, 2007	I never met a dog who didn't love Charlie. Skip, Skeg, Chantal, Thurston...that pathetic dumb bonehead of a dog (as Cate would say, often). If Charlie was in the room, Thurston was at his feet. Total adoration. You could tell that for the first time in his life, Thurston felt truly understood. Not such a dumb dog after all. I will be forever thankful that there was no late frost in Canberra last year. That meant a bumper crop of apricots, and so the Sunday before he left for Samoa, Bob, Isla and I went over to help Charlie pick them. Up the tree, we talked about the tsunami, and how hard it was to take in so big a tragedy, the elections, ACT and federal, plans for the year, family and friends, holidays past and future...it was the best talk I'd had with Charlie for ages. To distract Isla from climbing the ladder, I encouraged her to splash around in Charlie's rainwater barrels. Totally unfazed (of course) about the amount of water being splashed around, Charlie delighted in her squeals of joy. We have a photo of her which Charlie took that day (and in true Charlie efficiency, emailed to us before he left). Isla- totally drenched, dressed in one of Kari's old T-shirts. Beaming little face aglow, she is running towards the camera, towards Charlie. I think the dictum 'Never work with animals or small children' is because they can spot a fake a mile off. They also recognise a pure, open, generous heart instantly. Goodbye Charlie, and thankyou.
Frennie Beytagh Through ANTaR February 25, 2007	A Butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam and, for a brief moment its glory and beauty belong to our world But then it flies on again and though we wish it could have stayed, We feel so lucky to have seen it...
From one outstanding leader to another Nelson Mandela words via Tanya February 25, 2007	Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate Our deepest fear is not that we are powerful beyond measure It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure about you. We were born to make manifest the glory that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our light shine We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear Our presence automatically liberates others. Nelson Mandela 1994 Inaugural Speech
Geoff Holt Met Charlie through ACT Greens in November 2003 February 25, 2007	I am stunned and devastated at the news of Charlie's death while on leave in Samoa. I will always be impressed by the depth of his commitment to his fellow human beings, his compassion for the less well-placed in our society and his personal warmth. I always felt at ease in Charlie's company. While we give thanks for his life, his passing represents a great loss to the Greens, to ACTCOSS and to all those who loved and respected him. Vale Charlie
Gig Moon Colleague at CAA and valued friend February 25, 2007	Earth, receive an honoured guest. Thinking about how long I have known Charlie, I am amazed to realise it has only been 10 years since we met at CAA. I had never met anyone like him before. He truly educated me about South-East Asia - especially his beloved Laos - and supported me greatly as I was learning my new job at CAA. He was a remarkably honest and forthright person. There is no-one else whose conversation cuts right through any surrounding bullshit the way Charlie's does. It remains inconceivable to me that this special life ended so suddenly and so sadly. Gig.
Gordon McAllister Morgyn Phillips and Sophie McAllister Fellow Greens, plus our daughters are friends February 25, 2007	I only knew Charlie briefly from when he was selected to be the Greens candidate in the last ACT election, but realised that we were already connected through our daughters' friendship at school. From the start I was impressed by his commitment, energy, openness and friendliness. It is always a shock when someone you know dies, particularly if it is so unexpected. What gives us comfort in these times is the thought that there could be a positive side to these sad events – that the experience of being touched by a death may encourage us make the most of our own life, or that a death may trigger efforts to reduce the chances of such tragic events happening again. The more we hear about Charlie the increasing impression we get is of someone who was full of life and an inspiration to many others. Perhaps his death will inspire us to fill and overflow the huge void he has left. All our thoughts are with Charlie’s family, especially his daughters. Sophie feels greatly for her friend Kari.
Gosta Lynga ACT Greens, Swedish compatriot February 25, 2007	Charlie, how we are going to miss you. Miss you as a friend, miss you as a source of inspiration, miss your positive attitude during long election campaign meetings, miss your fundamentally green analysis of policy issues. I had hoped so much for our future work together in the Greens. Farväl och tack för allt, Vännen Gösta
Graeme Evans Colleague in ACT issues February 25, 2007	Charlie was a beacon of a special sort. He was ahead of us, showing the direction to aim at. Yet at the same time he was in the heart of the group, sharing the journey and helping us all when the path was rough. Charlie, we miss you greatly. But we will try not to let your vision down.
Graham Jensen Fellow candidate and mate February 25, 2007	Your smile, your passion, your hat, your integrity. You live still through many images in my mind and in my heart. You were and are inspirational. I miss you intently and painfully. Through Tina and Kari, may your spirit be unquenchable. Graham
Grainne Ryder Colleague from Lao days February 25, 2007	A lullaby for the spirit of my dear friend and colleague Charlie The body is not me; I am not caught in this body, I am life without boundaries, I have never been born and I have never died. Over there the wide ocean and the sky with many galaxies All manifests from the basis of consciousness. Since beginningless time I have always been free. Birth and death are only a door through which we go in and out. Birth and death are only a game of hide-and-seek. So smile to me and take my hand and wave good-bye. Tomorrow we shall meet again or even before. We shall always be meeting again at the true source, Always meeting again on the myriad paths of life. From the book by Vietnamese buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh "No death, no fear." In sorrow and with much sympathy for all those who loved Charlie.
Greg Buckman Associate in the Greens February 25, 2007	I only met Charlie twice – both within the last 12 months. On both occassions he impressed me as a really lovely, warm and enthusiastic human being. So full of the best of life. It seems so wrong that the world should lose him. We are all a huge amount poorer for his passing but a huge amount richer for the example he set us all. Greg Buckman
Helen Moran Acquaintance February 25, 2007	I don't believe I knew Charlie enough to qualify myself as one of his friends. My association with Charlie came about when he worked with David Hunter and others in bringing about the launch of the first album I produced. It was called "Burraay Dreaming them home" it was launched at Exhibition Park in 1998 and was one of the SORRY DAY events of that year. The album is a dedication to all Aboriginal people effected by the removal of Aboriginal children and the proceeds from the sales have been used to assist Aboriginal people in regaining their connection to their identitiy and culture.Both Charlie and David touched me in a special and significant way. You know how we sometimes meet people in our lives who although we may not have a lot of time with still leave a special mark or affect on us, Charlie was one of those people!! My last contact with him was at the Michael Long arrival in Canberra late last year. Charlie came up to me with wonderful smile of his and as he always did when we met he gave me a warm and loving greeting. That memory keeps returning to me and each time it does, it leaves me with a good feeling.I regret that I didn't know Charlie better, however I'm grateful for the priveledge of knowing him at all. In Sympathy and regret Helen Moran
Indra Esguerra Fellow traveller - community campaigns, Griffin Centre, 2XX, ACT Greens February 25, 2007	Charlie Your life force was so strong but you were only human after all I take great comfort that your life's work lives on in us all. Part of life is dying, although it is always hard for those left behind on Earth, I'm sure you are happy preparing for your new life. Thanks for sharing so much with so many people. May we all meet again sometime. Love Indra
Ingrid Påhlman-Käck One of Charlies aunties in Sweden February 25, 2007	Dear Gösta We will always keep the memories of you in our hearts Ulla and her family Anne, Gunilla and Birgitta Eva and her family Madeleine, Hans and Susann Ingrid and her family Cent-Åke, Magnus and Stefan
James Arvanitakis Through AID/WATCH February 25, 2007	My deepest condolences for Charlie Charlie, you will be missed dearly – not only from those who knew well, but also the many like me who only knew you in passing but are inspired by you – your passion, your values and your actions. Thanks for always taking the time to talk and share your views and knowledge. I know you took time with many activists - time that was invaluable. Thank you again. Our community has suffered a huge loss with your passing. In sympathy, James
Jane Donnelly Fellow Green February 25, 2007	Charlie was a good and gifted person, with so much to offer the world. His early death is a shocking loss and a terrible waste. But just now, I'm feeling it more personally, remembering his warmth and friendliness and kindness, and feeling disconsolate that he is not there any more. Charlie, it's hard saying goodbye. I will miss you. But I give thanks for your life. I am glad you were here.
Jane Giles February 25, 2007	I only knew you for a while But you always gave me a sparkling smile. We spoke of Karma of fate and man's dreams of the fragile nature of our tenure it seems. You have left this world and moved on countless miles but your spirit has touched me and makes ME smile. I will remember you always.
Janet Durno Former CUSO Thailand/Indochina Field Staff Officer and Friend February 25, 2007	My heart has been aching ever since I heard the news about Charlie. Charlie and I met and became friends and colleagues through CUSO Thailand and CUSO Laos in the late 1980s and early 1990s. Charlie cared deeply about these countries and made an important contribution to the development process in both. And he made so many friends. Charlie was a truly amazing person - bright, creative, funny, warm, tremendously dedicated to his family and his work, passionate about life. He radiated energy, optimism and joy. I will always remember those big warm hugs, that brilliant smile, that ever-questing spirit. People around the world are grieving for the loss of this dear friend. My deepest sympathy goes out to Charlie's family, and to all of us who are part of the international family of people who knew and loved him, and who will miss him so very much.
Janet Hunt Friend from Australian Council For Overseas Aid February 25, 2007	I was so sad and shocked to hear the news about Charlie. Although I've been away from Canberra for a few years I had heard about his continuing activism and had looked forward to seeing him again as we now return. Sadly that is not to be. My fondest memories of Charlie are his persistent haranging of World Bank and other officials about dams in Laos - his knowledge of what was happening usually left them speechless, with a 'We'll have to get back to you about that' response. I loved his positive energy, his strong sense of justice, his lovely humour, and his powerful analysis. We will all have a lot to do to live up to his memory - but he has left us with that challenge - to make the world a far better place - as he did. My thoughts are very much with Pam and all his family, who have lost someone so beautiful from their lives.
Janne Wittsell Uncle of Charlie February 25, 2007	For about two decades me, my wife Britt and my son Adam visited my sister Anna Lena and her family and celebrated Christmas and New Year's eve together. At that time we also had the opportunity to visit Charlie's dwelling in a cottage, which was unique and very personal decorated. There he lived in splendid isolation in the blue mountains away from civilisation. A perfect surrounding for Charlie living within and close to nature in the Eucalyptus forest. The cottage with a wonderful creek a few meters below where he got his absolute clean drinking water. We spent the day together talking and walking through the forest along the creek and bathing in the clean water. This day together with Charles became the very high-light of our long journey from Sweden. A wounderful and happy memory for us, which these photos may give some impression of. Click here for photo's Janne Wittsell
Jeremy Hobbs Former CEO of Oxfam Community Aid Abroad February 25, 2007	Michael Smitheram told me about the tragedy of Charlie's death last week in the UN building in New York, and like him, I felt devastated. Charlie had such extraordinary optimism and vitality that he seemed to me almost invulnerable.I have known him for a long time and he has always been irrepressible, active and energetic.It is very hard to believe that this has happened. I have great memories of beinging taken around Vientiene on the back of a tiny motor bike he had hired and his huge generosity of spirit as he showed me around. There was one special night by the Mekong where we sat and listened to the huge river and I began to understand his relationship with Laos, the people and the country - a very spiritual relationship. I also remember long beery arguments about the direction of CAA, of the program in particular, what I should do differently etc etc. We did not always agree but I really respected his integrity and commitment to justice which marked him out. His involvement in the struggle for indigenous rights in Australia was his usual mix of energy, passion, fun and practicality - happy to do any job to make things happen. On behalf of many of those in Oxfam who knew Charlie I want to pass on our deepest sympathy and love to Pam, Christine, Tina and Kari. Jeremy Hobbs Executive Director Oxfam International
Jesper Lundell friend February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie/Gösta! Even thirty years ago when my family was living in Australia, I remember you as someone to look up to. My first memory of you was when my family came around to your parents house for dinner. At the back of the house a very blonde but slightly green-haired boy was doing endless laps in the pool. That was you. I asked why your hair was green and was told it was because of the chlorine. I remember being very impressed by such utter devotion to swimming. Even allowing one's hair to turn green... My warmest regards, Jesper
Jessica Weir Friend February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie, it was Wednesday in Samoa but it was Thursday here in Canberra the day you died. On that Thursday the skies opened up and poured out water, do you think the sky was crying? It rained for hours in this dry land, it was a grey day. Out the window I watched the rain falling into puddles and splashing back up. The movement of water, of life. Where our two homes are there was a localised hail storm. The cold hard hail ripped the leaves from the trees, broke tomato vines in the vegetable patch, and covered the ground with the violent sharp ice. I was in the library reading about water, tumbling, rushing, twisting water, swirls and eddies, not knowing that this day my friend would drown. When we swim our watery bodies lose their definition and mix in with the sensuous touch of the smooth cool water. We submerge ourselves and enter another world, under the surface. Without water there would be no life on earth, but the water also holds dangers. We take our chances with it, to experience the pleasure, to merge with its life force. I spend my time at university writing about the river, about the flow of life, and you are one of the people I am writing this for. But now I am letting you go Charlie. Good bye my dear dear friend, all my love, Jess.
Jim Redden friend February 25, 2007	Hi Charlie Still missing you heaps Charlie but you continue to be an inspiration each day as I check into to make sure that what I am doing has at least some connection with working for global justice. Rest assured you remain alive and well in my consciousness and I am sure with many others. And don't forget our last picnic at Lake Ginnanderra where you and Pam spent so much of your time playing with Jameson, and ofcourse our joint-planning session as we strolled around the lake - those plans are still on you know wherever we are. I'll make sure Jameson knows all about you too when he is old enough and I'm sure Tina will help in that regard. In the meantime take it easy and don't give God too hard a time - he's only human! Love Jim
Joanna Abernethy Journey of Healing/Antar February 25, 2007	As was everyone else I was also shocked to hear that Charlie had passed away. Some people seem invincible. My sympathy and love to Ana Lena and Charlie's partner Pam, and for his children and family. I was fortunate enough to share the Antar stall at the National Folk Festival and meet Charlie for the first time in 2004. I was imediately struck by his friendliness, and passionate care for social justice, that came through anytime anyone approached the Antar stall, and were met whith a fantastic smile. With love, Joanna
John Bond Secretary National Sorry Day Committee and Journey of Healing February 25, 2007	There is a great empty hole in Canberra today. That is how I feel. Charlie always lifted my spirits, especially when we had committed ourselves to some big Journey of Healing event, and didn't know how we would pull it off! Charlie was always enthusiastic, ready to help without any fuss. Last year we needed to publicise the events around Sorry Day, but we were broke. 'Let's do a send-out to our whole ANTaR ACT list of 2,000,' Charlie said. Within days the newsletter was written and printed, thirty people met one Saturday morning to fold and address it, and off the newsletter went. Hundreds attended the events. One event was a celebration of the unveiling of the stolen generations memorial. There was a Sea of Hands to welcome everyone. Charlie did so much, often more than we realised because he was totally uninterested in claiming credit for himself. He just delighted in the outcome.
Jonathan Cornford Lao/Mekong/CAA connections February 25, 2007	So much that is true has already been said about Charlie. Yes, he truly was a presence, a life-force, a man with a vital spirit. Why was Charlie so commited in his politics, so astute in his analysis, so rigorous in his practice? Because Charlie understood that life is so much more than politics -that unless politics ultimately stands for life and for love it is worth nothing. And that unless political action springs from the whole of the life lived, the tears cried and the prayers prayed, it is just words that evaporate in the air or lie dead on the page. Thankyou for bringing and sharing hope Charlie. May the family you leave behind be comforted by the community of those who loved you. God speed your soul.
Juanita February 25, 2007	When I knew Charlie best he was falling completely and impossibly in love with his soul mate Pam. Together they spun fine threads to include everyone they loved in their lives. The threads connected in complex, intricate and beautiful ways. I hope this rich cloth, woven with a very special love, supports you all.
Julie Eagles through OCAA February 25, 2007	I have just heard this morning the sad news of Charlie's death. I knew Charlie when I was working with OCAA and stayed with him once in Canberra when I went there to talk at an OCAA dinner about the Pacific program. I did not know him well or keep in touch over the years since then but now I remember those couple of cold Canberra days well and how impressed I was by his warmth and generosity; his positive connection to people and the depth of his understanding and practical approach to development and justice issues. I am saddened by the news, while at the same time thinking what an extraordinary man he was that those couple of days come back to me with such a strong feeling of warmth and love for a person I hardly knew. Charlie had a spirit that could inspire others to believe they could be the best person they can be. At least, that's how I felt after those couple of days. Condolences to all of Charlie's family and friends and thank you for this lovely web site and the opportunity to remember him and his contribution to the lives of those of us knew him even briefly.
Justin Ray Friend February 25, 2007	Charlie was a friend and inspirer to me his death was obviously a complete shock to me. His memory will be a positive influence in my life for ever more and I wish there were more charlie Pahlmans in the world if there were the world would be a better place for us all. I truly miss you charlie many kind regards from me Justin Ray
Karen Ott An admirer from ACT CISM February 25, 2007	Every now and again, I'd hear about 'Charlie' enthusiastically helping various causes - inspiring, gathering information, providing ideas, working tirelessly, and much more - and it would turn out to be you. Appreciated deeply everything you did for us - thank you.
Katharina ostarhild February 25, 2007	My name is Kathrin . I am from Germany and i worked as a helper in the Residence of "Schloß Elmau" in the 80´s. As i met Charly we both felt like brother and sister and still today i felt an expression of amazing global love althought we had no contact since more than 10 years. I read the message in the internet just now.i am sad.Next to me there is one of the postcards he wrote me from places all over the world. i read the last line: to my sister kathrin -know you are loved, live a gentle live of reverence -with thanks and praises... Now i will light a candle foryou, charlie , one of the most lightful persons i ever met.
Ken King February 25, 2007	G'day Yesterday, I was standing in the kitchen washing up the breakfast dishes and listening to the radio when I was struck with the news of Charlie's death. The day did not fully go to plan as it was Australia day, a day to celebrate Australia and for all that she is and hosts. The one thought that immediately came to mind was that Australia has lost one of her very valuable assets, when Charlie died. I new Charlie in a professional capacity during his time with ACTCOSS with his determined/focused work in the community sector. I appreciated being able to participate in many meetings that Charlie chaired and/or just was there as a participant and listen to the way he would allow people to have their say but at the same time quietly put across his views and make us all think and know that there are two sides to every situation. I will miss his sense of humour that would be at meetings and the way that he would use it at times to cut through very tense times. The way that he would convert talk into action and if no action could become of the talk have us not waste energy on the unachievable. May this and the many other positive attributes you receive about Charlie wrap warmly around you and the family during this time of significant sadness and loss. I truly believe that the work of Charlie will go on well into the future, for he has planted many seeds and it is now our time to water and let them grow to develop his and our dreams well into the future. I could go on but I believe that you will have a good idea of how I feel and admired Charlie. Cheers and God Bless
Kerrie Tucker Friend and ACT Greens February 25, 2007	We will miss Charlie - the grace, the love and the good-will he brought with him. Deepest sympathy to his beloved family. Kerrie and John Tucker
Kerry Nettle fellow activist February 25, 2007	Charlie was a great inspiration. From the time I first heard of him + his work thru AIDwatch to my later connections with him thru The Greens. He has contributed inspiration, enthusiam, commintment, passion and a love of life and enjoyment to the social justice movement in Australia and beyond. We thank him + honour him for all he has contributed and hope we can carry on the work that he was committed to and passionate about in the same committed way that he would have done himself. One of my most recent interactions with Charlie was when he was helping Michael Long the former AFL player on his long walk to Canberra to meet with the PM and talk about indigenous issues. My colleague Jon was dealing with Charlie by phone without realising who Charlie was. Jon commented to me how helpful and enthusiastic this guy Charlie was that he'd been dealing with. When we joined Michael and the hundreds of other Canberra residents walking in solidarity with him, Jon was keen to meet up with this Charlie he had been speaking to on the phone to say thank you for all his help. When we met up with Charlie and I saw which Charlie it was it was immediately obvious why it was that Jon had found him so helpful. The walk through Canberra was fantastic, the energy and active support for Indigenous Australians was electric and it was so right that Charlie had been at the centre of organising for Jon, me, Bob Brown and Ben Oquist to be involved in the event Thank you Charlie for this and so much more with love to family and friends Kerry and staff Greens Senator for NSW
Kerstin Wichmann February 25, 2007	Just "by chance" I red two days ago of the tragedy, the same way as I met Gösta just "by chance" in 1987 (or 86?) at a bus-stop in Norway. I was hit by his radiance and his inspiring being. In the following months we met again in Sweden, Germany (Berlin, Hanover) and in Tailand. I always remembered him as a shiny, spiritual person, gifted, gentle and human, with warmth and humor. He impressed me with his believes and his ambitious fight for a better world. As I can see now, he continued his way with his own sincerity. Life doesn`t seem to be fair - the good die young. Meanwhile, having two own daughters in the age of his, I feel incredibly sorry for his beloved ones. He is so much needed - I hope one day all of this will make sense for them. All my sympathy to you. I`m thankful for knowing him and having shared a short sparkling time with him. He is still alive in me and requests me to believe more in dreams and visions and live more the way you yearn for. Thank You - Gösta !
Kira Maguire friend February 25, 2007	As I sit down to write this I am full of fear and sadness. The news that Charlie had died was told to me this morning while I was riding my horse and I have been in shock all morning. It was surreal trying to digest such an impossible, tragic event - it just would not compute. It was only when I opened this web site and saw his beautiful smiling face that it hit me like a tonne of bricks. He's gone. The friend I have known since I was around 10 and he was around 14 has gone. In an instant all the memories came flooding through my mind like they were yesterday. My memories begin with Charlie, Andrew and their Dad would ride through Samari Park Riding School to come and have lessons with my mum. It was always an impressive site as they had such lovely big horses and they marched through the place with a hint of military presence. That was how we met so many years ago (about 30yrs ago). From then on the friendship grew between the two families and it was not long before I suffered the terrible tragedy of losing my father at 15. I will never forget how wonderful the whole family was - from that time on we always spent Christmas with the Pahlmans which became a beautiful tradition. I still have one of the first presents Charlie gave me - a book on natural therapies which definetely helped to set me on a particular path in my life. I also remember spending the night out at his hut (somewhere in the middle of nowhere) and there was no power ofcourse and we were flooded in - a big advernture. I remember visiting Charlie and Christine in Thailand and Charlie introducing me to eating at the street stalls which also started something I would go on doing with great pleasure. I feel lucky that I knew him and that I have so many more lovely memories . My only regret is that we didn't see each other more often recently. I have always wished that we lived closer and that we could have seen each other more often. Charlie made a difference in my life and he made a difference in the world that he lived - nobody can do more than that in a lifetime - I'll miss you Charlie...
Kirsty Magarey February 25, 2007	ode to Charlie (well not really an ode) So I just want to tell you of my sense of Charlie – and it’s not a formal tribute (Bob & co have done that for me already) but a communication. I need to tell you about it. In particular I wanted to comment that if anyone ever has given me a sense that there is an after life, in whatever form, it is Charlie. He is just So Not Gone. In a sense he just couldn’t be. He was a life force in his own right. And Life Forces just don’t go. What’s more I feel he is more than the sum of our memories, however vivid, because he was more vivid even than that, he was more alive, and more engaged with life than one could know. I mean there’s also the facts about him being good, and committed and loving and generous and so many things, but also, and above all, he was so alive. So engaged with life and living it to the full and enjoying it to the limit. That enjoyment thing is what reminds me of one of my own particularly fond memories. It was a (F)ANTaR weekend at the coast a few years ago. I was heavily pregnant. There was a lot of swimming, and I mean A LOT, and Charlie and I both particularly loved the swimming and the body surfing. Hours and hours. And Charlie thought it was so funny having me swim with my ‘bump’/belly and took great delight in my enjoyment. And that’s the thing. He took great delight in my delight and in so doing he increased it and folded it back in on itself and through this process we were both just so much the happier. It was a knack he had. To notice others and appreciate with others and engage with others and to bring them out and get them to do the same. To have and to give delight. It’s also why he was so capable of so many and so profound a number of relationships. Cos he noticed and appreciated. And the friendship thing was never impaired by the number – he had So many and Such loving relationships. So Many and So Deep. And yet was never too stretched but just encompassed them all. ‘A great soul’. I love that line of Bob’s. And it’s a bit embarrassing because I don’t really have or approve of heroes. But there’s no other word for it and when I would try and explain Charlie to people who didn’t know him the only phrase for what I was doing was ‘singing his praises’. I would want to say and really explain how he was special: He was the only person I thought was capable of handling political life and not being corrupted (and that’s saying something very special). He was a phenomenon. A life force and something else again. He was the epitome of everything I thought a bloke should be. · He could put my fractious two and a half year old to sleep in record time (an unprecedented skill). · He could analyse an issue. · He could make meetings endlessly fun just by being there and bringing out the best in others. · He could (and did) lead. A natural/born leader without the oppressiveness that can be associated (In fact with a little more difficulty he was also a follower when needed). · He could consult about those analysed issues. Take advice on those issues, develop plans on those issues and inspire others to help him carry them out. · He could drink and talk forever. · And lots of other things. · And always, entirely, he could keep in mind the plan to change the world and make it more alive. He was my hero. And he’s gone. And we are the sadder and poorer and more depleted. … But on the other hand he’s not that gone. It is not logically possible.
Kyra Moss Thapa Please describe briefly your connection to Charlie February 25, 2007	People often talk about how moments can change the path of their lives- well I have much faith in this, but I belive that it is not only the moments but the people who inspire you at that time that are responsible for these changes. Charlie was one of these people- eventhough I had only the brief privelege of working with Charlie and Pam in Oxfam, Canberra, his devotion to truly being generous and his absolute honest desire to help left a mark on me,such that, I changed my path- and it had led me here to India where I live work and share a generous life with my husband and family that I hope has some reflection of the inspiration Charlie gave me. In this difficult time I wish to send my deepest condolences to his family and friends at home in Australia and around the world and to say thank you for allowing me to be a part of this beautiful remembrance process.
Lasse and Helga Lundell Swedish family friends February 25, 2007	Bästa Anders! Jadu, vi vet hur det känns att förlora en son. Våra tankar har varit hos Er hela tiden sedan vi fick Anna Lenas e-mail. Ett par dagar innan skickade hon oss ett vykort i ett kuvert och talade där om hur skönt det var på Samoa. En artikel om en amerikansk fiolbyggare i Canberra Sunday Times hade hon skickat med. Allt var 110% perfekt. Några dagar senare kommer hennes e-mail. Jag skrev direkt ill Anna Lena så fort jag kunde och talade om för Anette och Jesper vad som hänt. Det som hänt är inte mycket att orda om, det gör så många andra, men vi minns alla Gösta som en rejäl ung man vi alla är glada över att få ha mött under vår jordevandring. Gösta kommer vi att minnas som "a fair dinkum Aussie". Sedan får de infödda australierna säga vad de vill. Det var Din bror Anders och det skall Du vara stolt och glad över. Solen går ännu upp i öster och ner i väster och livet går vidare. Nu gäller det bara att göra övergången till ett fortsatt liv så bra som möjlig för alla, särskilt för Anna Lena, Dig, Göstas familj och övriga. Skrev till Anna Lena om hur väl omhändertagna vi blev av din familj när vi förlorade Philip. Därefter kom något oväntat från våra judiska vänner. De kom hem till oss och medförde såväl fast som flytande föda och ordnade med en berättarekväll, där vi själva fick berätta om alla glada, positiva och festliga minnen vi hade efter Philip. Han hann inte fylla fem, men det fanns massor att berätta. Jag är helt säker på att Din bror Gösta har lämnat efter sig åtskilliga positiva minnen. Vi blev uppmanade att inte glömma alla komiska tillfällen. Efter den här kvällen kändes livet betydligt lättare. När jag tackade dem frågade jag hur i all världen de kommit på denna eminenta ide. "Du! - Hur tusan tror vi judar har kunnat överleva om vi inte tagit hand om varandra och haft humor? - Vi har erfarenheter av alla sorters förföljerser! - Utan sammanhållning och humor hade det aldrig gått!" - Det finns en hel del klokt folk bland ju-darna. - Ta hand om varandra. Hör gärna av er. Lasse Lundell
Lee Rhiannon February 25, 2007	I was very upset to hear that Charlie died last week. Please accept my condolences. I find it very hard to believe that Charlie is no longer with us. Although I was with Charlie in person only a few times in my life we often talked on the phone when I worked on Mekong issues, and more recently on Greens issues. It was a great joy to me when I found out the Charlie had joined the Greens and was considering running for the Greens in the ACT elections. Like Charlie I love people and politics and in life’s journey we sometimes loose touch with old friends. So I was happy that our common commitment had brought Charlie and I back in touch. It was good to again talk with Charlie about old times, lessons learnt, and how to further our work for social justice and the environment. Charlie was always so alive, so helpful, so positive, so analytical, so committed, so available. When I started working on Mekong issues it was a big unknown for AID/WATCH, the organisation I was working with. Charlie helped to expand our understanding of the region and the development challenges. Charlie was very clear on how we should and should not engage with the large development groups, particularly the multilateral agencies. I remember Charlie telling the Asian Development Bank that he would no long go to any of their meetings if they insisted on promoting them as consultation sessions. Charlie here was tackling a big problem that we were up against. These big agencies would literally use the fact that they had met with an NGO to argue that they had engaged in community consultation. Charlie’s solution was to refuse to go to any meetings unless the ADB agreed to call their meetings with NGOs information sessions rather than consultations. I have used this example in many workshops I have given on campaigning – what Charlie is tackling is as relevant here as it is in South East Asia. Charlie’s exposure of this deception is a small but telling example of how Charlie at every moment in every way would take a stand. We have much to celebrate in what Charlie brought to all our lives, to the many campaigns he worked on and to the people he worked with. We are very fortunate to have known Charlie. Lee Rhiannon
Leigh Bowden through ANTaR February 25, 2007	My 84 year old mother has always said that life is not a dress rehearsal; this is the only chance we get at it! I spent two weekends with Charlie and other state ANTaR reps at National ANTaR strategic planning meetings in 2003. Charlie faciltated the discussion. When I received the email notifying people of Charlie's death I was surrounded by my adult chidren and grandchildren. I was telling them the very little I knew about Charlie. My description of him was, "He was someone who was absolutely alive!" Charlie's life was the real thing, not even in what he had 'done' but who he was 'being'.His life was no dress rehearsal. A doctor friend described an early death thus, "Some poems are long. Some poems are short, but no less beautiful because of their brevity." I don't know if you're familiar with the Hollie Near song, "It could have been me". My album is packed away with my old vinyls, but the lyric goes something like, "It could have been me, but instead it was you, so I'll keep doing the things you were doing as if I were two....." and I will. All the best for the celebration of Charlie at Corroborree Park on Monday. Pam and I set up that hall for an ANTaR drinks party in November, 2003. I'm glad I know the venue. I will be with you in spirit - literally and metaphorically. At 9.00pm my husband and I will raise a glass of Jamesons - to Charlie and the revolution! Be brave and keep dancing!
Lesley Hyndal Community Aid Abroad and ACTCOSS February 25, 2007	I met Charlie at the Community Aid Abroad office when I was doing volunteer work. More recently I have been providing subcontracting services at ACTCOSS. Charlie and I overlap in the Mental Health field. Charlie is professional, ethical, committed and considerate, a pleasure to work with. I can’t claim to know Charlie but like so many others I too have consistently experienced his genuine & warm greeting and ready smile. I sometimes imagine how unsettling I would find it if Charlie were to be depressed or distressed or confused. I have such an unbalanced view of him – passionate, dynamic, generous, living, vigorous. What I most like about Charlie is the space he takes up and the vibes he gives off. Although I never told him that he has my respect, I am sure that he knows it, for the same reasons I feel I have his.
Liam Phelan friend through work February 25, 2007	I'm so sad to hear of Charlie's passing. it can't be. we've lost one of the good ones, and so it's time to mourn. he's left a great impression on me, and many others, and this world, through his energy, optimism, commitment and integrity. so it's also time to celebrate an inspiring life. come global toast time i'll be raising my glass. Liam
Lin Hatfield Dodds colleague - community sector February 25, 2007	All at UnitingCare Australia send their love to Charlie's family and friends in this devastating time of pain and loss. We worked with Charlie to try to ensure a decent life for all Australians. Charlie's dreams, of course, were so much bigger than one country. One humanity, one world. Charlie inspired us all to hope for change, and to work for change. May his fire and passion continue to inspire us all - one of the ways we can carry him with us. grace and peace, Lin
Lisa ter Woort worked with Charlie in Thailand and Lao February 25, 2007	Alec's story about the yellow bug...has me laughing - which is good, I want to laugh when I remember Charlie!- and remembering many similar adventures with Charlie and that yellow bug. Charlie and his daughters and the bug awaited me on my arrival to Vientiane airport to start my work with CUSO Lao. That bug had to work so hard to keep on the road as Charlie drove and talked with his hands to me and his other passengers. It was quite a feat for Charlie to hand over the CUSO Lao program to me in a week, what with all the connections he had made developing the program... and I had a list of over 30 people's names, written furiously in my book as he drove me from appointment to appointment to meet so many people during that week. In and out of the streets of Vientiane, and into the countryside, dodging obstacles, animals and traffic with a somewhat reckless fashion, as Charlie was more intent on making sure that he could tell me as much as he possibly could about the programs and people I would be working with, and with such enthusiasm that he had to make some quick and sometimes exaggerated adjustments in the direction of the bug to avoid a collision from time to time. These adjustments, as he no doubt thought of them, would happen without causing Charlie much worry but for those unprepared passengers like myself, it was a rather hair raising experience. I remember that time well, and it was was funny because my luggage did not arrive with me and I had to do the whole week in the same outfit that I washed by hand each night ...thank goodness for polyester! Those first days in Lao with Charlie are so vivid in my memory! I will remember him as full of life, always brimming! I drank a toast to you Charlie, this early morning in Elmira, Ontario, Canada, smiling and crying at the same time!
Liz Howarth Community Sector February 25, 2007	Faith (for Charlie) If there was one of them it was you Didn’t even know you well But felt the faith that hung about like an ethereal yet somehow homespun mantle How did you know How were you so sure Of what to do at that or any other moment? There’s a sign on some people you know It hangs around their necks, Sometimes like a drogue Dragging them down and around, At other times, a circling albatross, when From time to time it lifts them up, above all else Above all others and shows them the full face of the sun That sun sparkles on the saltwater But the sea does not favour one worthy soul over another As one wave wipes a civilization or hundred off the face of this earth, So one more reaps your life from our small civic world From those you love and who love you back So, this grief-filled wave What will it do with it…your soul? toss it about in our minds like some careless debri Scatter like starry dust over these everyday workers Glitter to clothe the toiling elves who would eschew such glamour For humility…..and out of respect for all that is less than There are few of us so proud that could deny you A moment of the sun’s warmth as a reward for good works At times perhaps works without blessings But now that you’re away, the beggar asks a question Who will speak for my nakedness, for my homelessness, For my hunger, for my pain? There are others for certain, that speak out daily Shout louder, make it a din! With raucous, noisy voices that have to be heard Harsh and unwelcome to many ears. When the dust settles over us all we’ll be the better for it Our different hearts and harps a’glister in the fall.
Liz Woody and Paris Friends and snorkellers February 25, 2007	Charlie don’t surf Trust Charlie Pahlman to turn snorkelling into an extreme sport. If only he'd stuck to wind surfing. Charlie really hated John Howard too Last night we were watching a program on streakers at sporting events and I remembered the time Charlie was a part of a small group of us that wanted to organise a streaker for one of those nauseating PM's XI fluff cricket matches. Of course the streaker would have a strong political and social justice purpose. But we dropped the plan when we realised a) the PM wasn’t going to be there and b) the media don’t cover streakers anymore. Charlie, we will keep going We will continue do what we can to rid our country of this small minded government of division and fear. Because that’s the opposite of how you operated: through unity and love. We're glad you are unaware of the recent goings on around the opposition leader. No, you don’t want to know. Only the good die young. Unfortunately this is true and Tina and Kari and Pam and Ana Lena are left to pick up the pieces of their lives and go on without him. We could add the total of what Charlie meant to all of us and multiply that by love times 1000…it might be the sum of their loss. It might not be half of it. Charlie's spirit lives on I dreamt I was sitting next to you on a couch. I knew you were dead but I also knew you were real cos I pinched you to check. We were, as ever, laughing, drinking, yarning. (It must have been a 'meeting') What happens when you die? Maybe we can get together after we die to find out. In the meantime I am prepared to believe your spirit lives on. See you round Liz, Woody and Paris
Lochheadsperling Please describe briefly your connection to Charlie February 25, 2007	I only met Charlie twice but both times were incredibly intense. Last year during the Green Politics School in Hobart I renewed the connection we made two years earlier. I first met Charlie and Pam when my Husband Alistair and Pam were both undergoing treatment for their illnesses. The shared experience of finding ways to help our partners at this time meant we had something in common other than activism. It became obvious though that the thing we shared most was a passion for activism and politics. I was so happy when I met Charlie again in Hobart and saw his enthusiasm for The Greens. I'm sure that if his life had continued, he would have been elected and made an outstanding Greens parliamentarian in the future. I was so upset when I heard the news that all I could do was go for a long walk and think of Charlie. As I walked into the bush I saw a magnificent Diamond Python. It was long and sleek and strong. Just like Charlie. I'm not a budhist and I dont believe in reincarnation, but I do believe the spirit of Charlie is still here - if nothing else, it will live on inside all of us who knew and loved him. Karla Sperling and Alistair Lochhead.
Lois Genis yoga friend February 25, 2007	Reading all these tributes makes me cry and laugh. How wonderfull to read and feel the love for Charlie, very healing indeed. Charlie you have touched my heart and been an inspiration in so many ways. Last time we met was a year ago at our place and I feel so fortunate that you came to visit and that we did our last yoga class together. Your opptimism and child like sense of fun was contagious. Writing this makes me reflect on one of my favourite quotes by Jack Kornfield which I often read out in Yoga classes "In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you learn to let go? You really lived life fully and loved deeply. It's going to be hard for us to let you go and this I feel with sadness not only for my self but your close family and loved ones. Your love will continue on and you are remembered with much love.
Lois Mcrae Sea of Hands February 25, 2007	One of my memories of Charlie: We were trying to get a Sea of Hands planted at the Australian Museum on a really windy afternoon. It seemed that as fast as we planted them or even before we had planted them the wind would blow them away. Some of us became very discouraged and I think we would have given up but Charlie was his usual cheerful self and in the face of his optimism we just had to keep going. Of course the wind did die down and the sea was beautiful (I think it was Pam's design). I hardly knew Charlie really but he was the kind of person who made you feel good just to be around him and he made a big impact on me. His smile was so wide and welcoming and his enthusiasm infectious. I loved the way he related to his friends and especially to Pam. Such a warm, caring and loving person.
Lorraine Ball CAA and ANTaR February 25, 2007	I met Charlie only a few times, but remember well his warmth and passionate commitment shining out in his golden smile. To Pam, my deepest sympathy to you and Charlie's close friends and family.
Lucia Mayo Member of ACT Greens February 25, 2007	I am grieved and devastated over Charlie's death.He had so much warmth, so much life , so much enthusiasm for important causes. It is a sad loss indeed to us all. My heart goes out to his family and loved ones. Lucia
Lynn Skinner A friend of Pam and Charlies from Health Care Consumers Assoc. February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie, you touched my life ever so briefly, but you have left an imprint on my mind (and spirit) that will last a lifetime. Your energy and enthusiasm made you one of a kind, a special kind of man. My thoughts to all your family and friends who were blessed to know you and to love you. Our lives are poorer for your loss, but richer for having known you. Rest peacefully my friend, "har det god make!" love and hugs Lynn Skinner and in my native Norwegian, the last words Charlie spoke to me a few short weeks ago Kjær Charlie, De berørd mitt liv noensinne slik kort, men De har til venstre en imprint på mitt sinn som varer en livstid. Deres energi og begeistring laget De enestående, en spesiell type av mann. Mine tanker til all Deres familie og venner som velsignet vite De og elske De. Våre liv er fattigr for Deres tap, men rik visst for De. Hvil fredlig min venn, har det god make! kjærlighet og omfavner Lynn Skinner
Lynne Mitchell CUSO Cooperant in Thailand with Charlie February 25, 2007	So here I sit in Canada. It's -18 outside and I'm thinking back 15 or more years to sitting in Thailand, sweating, sipping whisky and chatting with Charlie. I remember the noisy house near the Bangkok airport, filled with friends and food and conversations which paused momentarily for the roar of jets to pass. We had wonderful debates about politics and pesticides and usually I debated Charlie's feet because so often he was upside down in a headstand. I think I knew Charlie's feet better than the feet of all my other friends...as I recall Charlie's feet often won the debates. This is one of those times when I regret not keeping in touch, not hearing how well those marvellous babies have grown, not keeping the exuberance of Charlie closer, not debating his feet more often. But I realize from looking at this website that there are so many of you who came to love Charlie over the years and although I lost touch, there were others who, no doubt, have sipped, and chatted and debated and laughed; who have benefited from, and contributed to, the never-ending exuberance. The pictures on this site show the person I knew and I was so pleased to see at least one photo of Charlie, upside down and those familiar and much missed feet.
Mandy Nearhos OCAA Canberra February 25, 2007	My life was richer for having known Charlie, and now its so much poorer for his loss. Several days later, it still feels unbelievable that a man with so much energy passion and good thinking could have left us. My thoughts are with Pam, Tina and Kari, and Anna Lena. We all loved Charlie, but you so much more. I hope Charlie's soul will live on in all of us and that we can honour that as such a great man deserves.
Margaret McLeod CAA connection February 25, 2007	I was devastated when I heard the announcement on the news - I felt it couldn't be true. I didn't know you very well but was so aware of your passion for human rights/social justice. Such a loss to not only the Canberra community but the world - I wish I'd had more contact now with you over the years. I remember you sent me an email once about how I should address some social issue, I have it still. My condolences to all your family, especially Pam who I know from CAA. I read the tributes to date - and feel that yes, I can imagine you are now jollying along the volunteers helping with the tsunami victims - keep smiling. And see some of you Monday.
Mark Baker Studied with Charles at HAC February 25, 2007	Our courses in life initially crossed paths in the early 1980's. We met at H.A.C. amongst a miriad of talented and inspired people. Charles excelled within the mood of HAC as innovative ways of lateral thinking were rewarded. Our times together still rest in my memory. Sharing the cabin at Wheeney Creek, our prac. experience on the Nth Coast of NSW and the great people that you seemed to meet when you spent time with Charles. He dropped in recently whilst up the Nth Coast, recounting old times and people. Enthusiasm for life still oozed from one of the most positive spirits I have come across. My thoughts are with the people closest to Charlie whose life was influenced so much, some I have met and some I will see at his Memorial on 31/1/05. To me he was a fantastic person whose effects touched everyone who knew him. Much love Mark.
Mark Penzel Friend from Elmau Days February 25, 2007	Just found out and I can't believe it. Although I last saw Charlie briefly two years ago in Sydney at a dinner with Andrew and his family, I knew Charlie during the spring and summer of 1980, when he and Andrew worked at Schloss Elmau in Bavaria (where their mother had also once worked), and I worked in the neighboring Mullerhaus. We were waiters by day, and kegelbahners, ping-pongers, drinkers, Credence fans, (sometimes) hikers, and talkers by night. We were both unrequitedly in love with the same English woman, Christine (no relation). While my memories are of shared happy times with both Andrew and Charlie, the most significant thing Charlie gave me came from his, at the time, deep-rooted conservatism. It may surprise some, but at the time, Charlie's politics were fairly right wing, but he had come from a family that had emigrated from Sweden to escape socialism. I remember many arguments about US involvment in Vietnam, Indonesian mass murder in East Timor, and US foreign policy in general, and I think it's safe to say that the Charlie then would have fiercely disagreed with the Charlie he became. I kept thinking, this guy is nuts! But then we came, I think, to a conclusion that, for hot-headed twenty year olds and particularly for me at the time, was fairly mature. We liked each other too much, and enjoyed each other's company too much, to let our disagreements interfere. To maintain our friendship, we agreed to disagree. And judging from the tributes on this site, it seems something that Charlie, even after he converted from the dark side, never forgot. Charlie was a wonderful guy, and the world is both better off for his having lived, and poorer for his having died. At a recent tribute to Martin Luther King, a speaker challenged us to imagine who would be at our funerals as a way of assessing whether we were being true to King's ideals. From the pictures and tributes I've read, Charlie measured up. Good bye Charlie. I'll miss knowing you are out there.
Maureen Sheehan Work colleague February 25, 2007	My heart goes out to Charlie's family at this terrible time. He was a genuinely gentle, kind and lovely man and I will miss him. Although I'm not sure how much I will miss him giving me what for because the ACT government didn't give enough funding to the many worthy causes Charlie was making representations on behalf of. He was a passionate advocate and he lived according to his beliefs, which we all admired him for. While we grieve his loss now, we will celebrate his life and his achievements, and that is how we will remember him. Good bye Charlie.
Melita Grant Colleague while I was working with AID/WATCH February 25, 2007	Charlie’s writing and activism was a huge part of my learning about aid and development issues in the Mekong region. He was certainly a role model and knew how to ‘cut through the crap’. His dynamic approach would bring a meeting to life - I deeply respect him. I have spoken with some people from AID/WATCH who also worked with Charlie on Australian aid and the Mekong River campaigns, and we all send our thoughts and condolences to Charlie’s family. I am deeply shocked and saddened as are so many people he knew and touched. AID/WATCHers past and present send their love to Charlie’s family and friends.
Messages from the Mekong Terra and Mekong friends of Charlie February 25, 2007	Messages from the Mekong If you’ve been to the Mekong region its life force touches you. If you met Charlie his life force touches you. The Mekong was inside Charlie, he loved it and fought passionately for the rights of local people and their livelihoods. The following is a collection of emails received from some of Charlie’s Terra/Mekong buddies as the news of his death swept across the world. I hope they don’t mind them being posted. Margie Law (ex-Terra Thailand, ex-CAA Hobart) *********** During several hours after the news, I could not help but cry in the bed. I have no words other than sorrow. My six-year daughter, Ai, shares her memory with Charlie. He gave her a ride on his shoulders to watch local festival in my home town when he visited our home in 2000. Charlie is a kind of representative of non-Japanese friend of her. Whenever she saw a tall westerner in Japan, she remembers Charlie. Our home has been filled with sorrow since then. We hang the picture of Charlie at the dinning room. We miss him, from our hearts. Please forward my sincere condolences to his family. I have no other thing to do than praying for him here in Tokyo. Satoru Matsumoto Mekong Watch Tokyo, Japan 25 January 2005 ********* I am in receipt today of the oh so sad news by way of a mutual colleague who worked in Lao with Charlie and myself. Ironically I have photos in my office today as I am preparing a presentation of my time in Southeast Asia (7 years from 1991-1998) and am now looking at pictures of Charlie which are reminding me of the great work we did together with CUSO, SAF, TERRA and CAA. Charlie was such an inspiration and support to me when I was a CUSO Thai cooperant and later when I replaced Charlie as the Country Representative of CUSO Lao in 1994. We continued to work together on community forestry, and other sustainable development issues. I remember well his idealism, energy, humour, dedication, and inspirational support that he so generously shared with all of us who knew him. Unfortunately, in recent years I have been out of touch with Charlie and my Lao colleagues. I am deeply saddened and would like to send a card to his family. Please send me an address where I can do that. I would appreciate receiving any updates that you may receive as well. With a very heavy heart today I remember Charlie. Lisa ter Woort University of Waterloo Ontario, Canada 25 January 2005 ********* Oh hell, Charlie packed more love, energy and constructive outrage into any one year that many of us do in a lifetime. Mourn his death we must, but also want to celebrate his life. Randy Vientiane, Laos 24 January 2005 ********* I'm so shocked and devastated to hear about Charlie's death. Please pass on my condolences to his family, whom I never knew. Charlie was so full of encouragement, energy, creativity, enthusiasm, skill, understanding, humor, thoughtfulness, outrageousness, sympathy and support for others. This is very hard news to take. I don't know what else to say. I have to try hard to imagine the world without him. Larry Lohmann The Corner House England 23 January 2005 ********* Charlie made my life so much richer through the most simplest of things. He was a mentor for my work (CAA, Terra, ANTaR, Greens and COSS/Anglicare) and for life (especially relationships). He was always there for me. He was a very special friend to so many people, always a pivotal person at his workplace and in activism, and an exceptional father. His love for people and for life shone out of him, even in his times of doubt. Charlie’s love for his friends and colleagues and his love of working hard for a good cause is so inspiring. We are all lucky to have great memories and strong feelings, happy and sad, not just vague feelings. I'm sure that we will be able to nurture each other through this sad and difficult time, with Charlie's life spirit carried within. I send my love to Pam and Christine and to Tina, Kari, Bec and Bella and to Anna Lena. I am so sorry for your pain. Love, Margie Law Hobart 6224 0605 23 January 2005 ********* I am in India with Angela and got your message late last night via Shalmali, who we are staying with. I think that I must have been in shock last night. Now I am having trouble comprehending that someone like Charlie who had so much life in him has passed away. Pam and his two daughters must be heart broken. Of course, if you do talk to any of the family in the meantime, please pass on our most hear felt condolences to them. Take care, Andrew Nette 23 January 2005 ********* Just arrived back from Cambodia this morning, but Charlie's news arrived to me and P'Nok Montri since yesterday. Thank you so much for your mail and your call to my mobile (could not use it in Cambodia). I would like to call you but may be too difficult to talk without crying (which I'm pretty good at) right now. So I'd like to just let you know that we are all awaiting for more detail about the funeral. I would like to go to the funeral I think. Love Eang Terra 22 January 2005 ********* It's a terrible shock. Please do pass along Christine's number when you can. Charlie was in touch just before he went on this trip and he was so looking forward to it and so full of life and joy as usual...... I spoke with Janet Durno, another old colleague/friend of Charlie's, now living in Ottawa. So many good memories we all have of Charlie! At least I will keep in touch with Jan this week as we get more information and are planning a get together in February when we can have a skate down the frozen Ottawa River and together mourn the passing of our dear friend. Big hugs to you and everyone who loved him. Grainne Ryder Probe International 22 January 2005 ********* This is devastating news, and somehow can't quite believe that such a life spirit as Charlie is gone. I would indeed be most grateful if you could pass on my love and thoughts by way of condolences to Charlie's family. Love and tears Phil Hirsch (in Thailand) Director, Australian Mekong Resource Centre Sydney, Australia 22 January 2005 ********* I am in Laos now and have informed quite a few people about Charlie including Sombath. It is incredibly shocking and sad. Randy talked to Khamla at CUSO. Khamlouang has been traveling in the south in a remote area but should be back in contact today. Please let me know as soon as you get info on possible funeral arrangements. I will consider coming. I am scheduled to fly to Cambodia on Monday. Take care, Bruce Shoemaker 22 January 2005 ********* what a terrible shock. i can't believe it. thanks for letting us know, but its still so difficult to believe that charlie could just die like that, snorkelling. what a terrible loss. i too would like an address for his family so i can send a card. with love and condolences to all, (and in disbelief) aviva. 22 january 2005 ********* Its very shocking and sad news and very difficult to take. Please pass on my condolences to all family and friends. Take care. love rajesh 22 january 2005 ********* This is one of the worst bits of news I have ever heard in my life. I am so sorry that you had to take on the burden of breaking this news to us. I would very much like to talk with Christine, Pam and the girls. Please send me their phone numbers and postal addresses. And yes, please pass on my love and hugs to all of them. I can't say anymore now. Take care, Shal Focus on the Global South India/Thailand 21 January 2005 ********* For many of us, we have lost a brother. For all of us, we have lost a dearest friend. Love Dave Thailand 21 January 2005 ********* I am shocked. I just came to office to clear my things up and heard the sad news from Noi and Witoon. Please forward my condolences to Charlie's family. I knew only Charlie and possibly met once one of his daughters. Take care... Timo Project for Ecological Recovery Thailand 21 January 2005 ***********
Michael Simon friend and colleague - OCAA and Mekong February 25, 2007	Charlie lived life – he was no passenger. The close connection between his life’s passions and his work passions was stronger in Charlie than anyone I know. His humility, his generosity, his lack of ego, his piercing analysis and his calling of falsity and insincerity were constants. Charlie was a thinker and a doer. He was an inspiration, and his consistency was unsurpassed. His love of the Mekong and the peoples of the region was infectious and unbounded. He gave generously of his energy and life to every issue we worked on together. While he hated it, he recognized the need for occasional compromise in the light of longer term or more important wins, but as many others have noted he also was not willing to ‘play the game’ if it compromised his principles. Justice, equity and solidarity were there in everything he did. His passion and fair dinkum care for others, their lives, their struggles was genuine and heartfelt. He was always willing to take on a fight when necessary, to not take the easy path, to challenge and question. His advice was sometimes challenging and difficult, but always intelligent and well meant. His wry questioning and prodding made collective decisions that much better in their outcomes. Charlie was committed to and demanded good process. He was a team worker and a leader. He was usually out on the extreme of what he tackled – again to the betterment of the collective. He brought people together, he opened his heart and home and (too) often put his own life needs behind those of the campaign or the cause. Through dull heads after a long night of talking and wine drinking, sharing Charlie’s morning coffee and muesli, honey yoghurt and morning can-do clarity before the day ahead is one of my fondest Canberra thoughts. How so often his lounge room was opened up as a venue for activism and friendship. The Mekong strong there. His love and commitment for the Canberra CAA office and his co-workers - for local activism, for fighting the fight with head office priorities and for developing his peers into a team! Charlie was not only instrumental in getting a lot of OCAAs Mekong work off the ground, he was the common chord in many friendships, alliances and effective working partnerships. While he’d probably have raised his eyebrows to this, he was in many ways a mentor to me. His legacy lives on in the issues, the politics and the campaign that continues targeting the ADB, and continues in supporting farmers and fisher people in the Mekong. His voice lives on in many things we do - years after his daily involvement has moved onto other issues and organisations. Directly or indirectly he brings many of us together and in many countries when I meet friends and colleagues one of the first questions is “How’s Charlie and what’s he up to now?” Over the past week I’ve been looking at the “Charlie” folder in my email archives, going through the many off the cuff long ideas emails, the more polished and cutting emails, the formal letters, the shit stirring emails, the questioning and challenging ones. And across them all the friendship and support, the timely advice, guidance and solidarity. Even if Charlie was unhappy with a compromised position we had to take he stuck with the issue and saw the bigger picture game. ….He was wise, he was passionate, he is irreplaceable. As a mutual close friend and colleague said “when I’m struggling with an issue I often think what would Charlie have to say about this?”. Too sadly Charlie won’t be there any longer on the end of the phone or email…but as has been said by so many in these tributes, his life energy will remain in all our struggles and campaigns into the future. Charlie was a friend. I’ll miss him. My love and best wishes to the girls, Pam and Charlie's family. Four friends will drive to Canberra from Melbourne tomorrow for the memorial. Charlie will be a fifth in the car and I look forward to the drive for this reason.
Michelle Tonissen former caa SA colleague February 25, 2007	Charlie your enthusiasm, energy and passion for life will continue to inspire. Love and condolences to Charlie's family and friends at this time. Deep peace of the running river to you Deep peace of the flowing air to you Deep peace of the quiet earth to you Deep peace of the shining stars to you Deep peace of the gentle nights, moon and stars to pour their healing light on you
Michelle Whyard Winnipeg Canada Colleague and friend February 25, 2007	When I said “goodbye” to Charlie as my family left Canberra in July, I had no idea it would be our last. I fully expected to return to Australia in the not too distant future and be able to pick up our conversation where we last left it – probably in mid-sentence. Charlie was a wonderfully warm and nurturing person to be around – as I tell his story to people that I know here in Canada, I realize more and more how lucky I am to be able to reflect back over my last two years in Canberra and share memories of his smile, his laugh, his hat, and his absolute commitment to people. The final professional moments I had with Charlie were at Coroborree Park (sharing a lot of laughter!) – so I feel that it is ever so fitting that a celebration will be held there to rejoice in his life. I hope that it is a true celebration with many wonderful stories and plenty of laughter. I will raise a glass of good Australian red here in Winnipeg to his memory, his influence and his spirit. I know that his passing will leave an enormous gap in the lives of many – his family, his colleagues and his community. I know it has left a gap in mine. To Charlie….
Misha friend/Mekong Group February 25, 2007	Charlie was a rare man. A man of boundless energy and enthusiam, of absolute commitment and absolute conviction. His loss is a tragedy not just for the people who knew and loved him but for all those whose lives were improved by his work and his activism. Misha Coleman Hanoi
Nadir Saikal Friend of Multicultural Network February 25, 2007	I am sorry to hear this sad news and its is a big shock for Canberran community in general. Charlie was a great fellow and I learned a lot from him through Multicultural Network's meetings. May God keep him in his forgiveness and blessing Nadir Saikal Support Co-ordinator Centacare
Natasha Cica Please describe briefly your connection to Charlie February 25, 2007	I only met Charlie a few times but they were memorable. I remember most that in-the-moment delight in life that Kirsty mentions. There seems to be less and less of that around, these days. Also less and less of the uncorruptibility that made him a great contributor to political life in whatever form he chose to do it. I think taking delight in the lives we are lucky to have, and pushing forward on those issues and values dear to him, is the best memorial to Charlie.
Nick Fahey Community Aid Abroad February 25, 2007	I met Charlie only a handful of times, but from those meetings and from the ripples created from his tireless work over many years, I knew him to be one of the truly compassionate and staunch people of this world. I hope that Charlie had some inkling of how much his efforts were appreciated and how much he motivated and inspired people - even those who barely knew him.
Nicky Coles CAA and the East Timor Campaign and a friend of Anna Lena February 25, 2007	Having read all 72 (to date) of the website tributes to Charlie I wondered if there was anything more for me to add. What a marvellous expression of grief and love for a special friend and fellow-traveller! Sometimes hi-tech enhances feeling and closeness: even on the Saturday morning after Charlie died, on Mt Majura not long after sunrise, six of us were treated to a laptop photographic display, and in spite of initial surprise, it didn't seem incongruous as we laughed and sighed over photos of Charlie. Charlie himself was a hi-tech man as well as down to earth - with his feet pointing skywards at times! Dear Charlie, my own grief and love seem to grow rather than diminish with the passing of the days. How are we going to do without you? I feel so much for my friend Anna Lena and especially for Tina and Kari who will bravely grow up without their wonderful Dad to help and encourage them. And of course for Pam and all that amazing combined extended family. Someone said to me the other day: 'I hardly had contact with Charlie, but I just loved him, and I loved the way he and Pam related. I loved them both.' Yes, I agree. Charlie and Pam were such a team, different but kindred spirits, and such a force for good. I was not a close personal friend of Charlie's but we were friends nonetheless. And comrades in activism - especially on East Timor before the referendum. This is a special kind of bonding that goes deep. Like many others I looked to Charlie for his wisdom derived from experience and for his ability to make things happen. He made me feel I could do more than I felt I was capable of - the mark of a true leader. And working with Charlie and Pam was always FUN! Kirsty's words resonate with my own thoughts: '...if anyone has ever given me a sense that there is an after life, in whatever form, it is Charlie. He is just So Not Gone. ...He was a life force in his own right. And Life Forces just don't go.'
Nico Friends from the time in Lao February 25, 2007	After he got back from holidays in Vietnam, Charlie brought me a small poster of Ho Chi Minh. An ageless Ho Chi Minh looks at you, smiling from eternity in a celestial blue background. He bought the poster in Hanoi at the huge Mausoleum for Ho Chi Minh. Charlie told me that Ho Chi Minh had asked, that when he died not to build a memorial, just to bury him on a certain hill and plant some trees, that would do fine. His explosions of laughter could crack the walls (if not of the office we shared than certainly the ones around a person) His long arms could embrace the whole world Given his optimism he probably is very surprised about what happened. Shit To cry now no be bad thing Nico
Noel Rajesh Friend and colleague working in Thailand/Mekong February 25, 2007	Charlie was my friend, colleague, and advisor for many things related to Laos/Mekong (from beer to politics). He revelled in humanity and all the fascinating beauty, eccentricities, and challenges of life in our work in the Mekong part of the world ... and ... constantly urged, cajoled and goaded us to do likewise. We will miss his compassionate spirit. I don't believe in premonitions I have no trust in superstitions I don’t run from slander or venom There’s no death on earth All are immortal, everything’s immortal. Don’t be afraid of death at seventeen Or seventy as well ... there’s just reality and light. There’s neither death nor darkness in this world ... (from A. Tarkovsky)
OCAA Lao Staff February 25, 2007	Letter of Sympathy Dear Ana Lena, Andrew, Christin, Tina and Kari, Pam, Becca and Bella We are learned with profound sorrow of the death of your dear Charlie. He was one of the wonderful person we have ever known, and for whom we had the greatest admiration and regard. He will be missed by many. We know perfectly well how deeply you and your family’s members were attached to him, and how greatly you all must miss him for ever. We would like you all to think that what must happen to human beings must. If you can think like this, we are sure you will feel a little better. There is not much we can say at a time like this. But we want you to know how deeply we feel for your sorrow, and how much we would like to share with you. Sincerely Yours, OCAA-Lao Staff Photo of Lao Charlie Memorial
Pat Crosscombe Please describe briefly your connection to Charlie February 25, 2007	I am deeply saddened to hear from Janet Durno of Charlie's passing. My heart goes out to his family as I offer my condolences. Seeing Charlie's picture on his memorial web site immediately brought back fond memories of times shared in Thailand. I moved into Charlie and Christine's house (with the noisy airplanes) in Bangkok and into Charlie's space in the Bangkok CUSO office. Both spaces remained filled with Charlie's amazing energy long after he had moved to Laos to a new position with CUSO Laos. I know that Charlie's positive energy will continue to flow around the world even though he is no longer with us. With fond memories.... Pat Crosscombe
Patrick Kilby Colleague and friend February 25, 2007	I met Charlie … must have been ten years ago at a Friend of the Earth US lobby fest in Washington, he came up asked who I was and I was an Aussie representing Australian NGOs - he then ‘checked me out’ I am still not sure whether I passed the test but we became lifelong friends at that point. He was true mentor and taught me that thinking about and empathising on justice issues was not enough. They had to seized with a passion and tenacious clung on to, and never let go. His advocacy was passionate and fearless. He was not one to follow fashions of development or advocacy or whatever. His never let go attitude can be attested by his lifelong friendships he made with those he touched in his work. I will miss his unfailing habit of coming to a party at my place just as it was winding down with a bottle of red and then engaging with everybody there in a way that only Charlie could do – resulting in bigger hangover for all than planned. I will miss the long discussions on the merits and demerits (usually the demerits) of the Australian Labor Party leadership, and global politics in general. But most of all I will miss his infectious smile, his capacity for absolute fairness and commitment to a passionate fight against injustice, while being so human and loving to all around him. I will miss you mate!!!
Paul Bartholomew Work colleague in the ACT community sector February 25, 2007	Thank you Charlie for all your wisdom, intelligence, encouragement and sense of humour during the last two years that we worked together on issues confronting the community sector in the ACT. I enjoyed working with you immensely and I will miss you terribly. My sincere condolences to all of Charlie's family and his colleagues at ACTCOSS Paul Bartholomew Respite Care ACT Inc
Paul Oboohov quite a number of chats at Save the Ridge, elections, anti-war, pro-refugee and other rallies and events. February 25, 2007	I am saddened to hear of the passing of Charlie Pahlman. I came across him in the Save the Ridge campaign, during the elections last year in his role as an ACT Greens candidate, at protest rallies and in chance meetings in the street and in cafes on the way to the Snowy Mountains (he was a cross country skier, as I am also). Apart from his infectuous grin, I appreciated his commitment to the environment through his work with the ACT Greens, but also his awareness and activism on a range of issues to do with structural or politically constructed injustices in the wider world. Thus whether it was an anti-war, refugee or environment rally or march, one would invariably bump into Charlie, and exchange words on the issue at hand. I also recall his presence at some of the Save the Ridge actions / protests on the O'Connor Ridge, including when the bulldozers were being confronted. He wasn't just a person standing in elections to gain a position in the ACT Assembly, he was an activist, personally committed across a range of the issues of the day in our society. He was my kind of activist. As we face a historical situation in this country by July of the untramelled power of the representatives of the corporate elite to do what they like to the environment, working people, refugees and the third world, we can ill afford to lose people like Charlie. That's why his example should be held up to inspire, to paraphrase Che, "one, two, three more Charlie Pahlmans". People who can be activist catalysts like Charlie, who can mobilise the people to demand the kind of world we all need, are going to be the only thing standing between us and disaster in the coming period. I urge you to follow in Charlie's footsteps. I salute Charlie's work and achievements, Paul Oboohov for Socialist Alliance (ACT)
Peder Wittsell February 25, 2007	Det har gått många år sedan jag och min bror Rasmus senast träffade er båda hos faster Heléne, ändå kände jag en stor sorg när jag hörde om Göstas bortgång. Glada minnen har inget bäst före datum. Peder
Peter Wise Great supporter of the ACT community sector February 25, 2007	Hi Charlie, I can't believe you've been taken from us so cruelly and suddenly. I'll miss your passion, commitment and enthusiasm for the cause of the underpriviliged and disadvantaged in our society (and those in other societies also). You were a great guy who inspired me to think about what more I could do with my life to look beyond myself and help others.
Phil Glendenning We worked together with ANTaR February 25, 2007	The world is a poorer place and we are all diminished. I remember many years ago working in Rwanda and wondering how on earth can we make sense of this? How to we - as human beings - a find some light through the darkness. Enter Charlie Pahlman. From the first time I met him and over the yesrs working with him and alongside him, I was moved and motivated by the way in which he embraced life, loved people and was always looking for solutions, for a way out of the darkness. As an Irish poet once wrote 'though there are torturers in the world, there are also musicians, and orchestras releasing glories of the spirit'. Charlie was an orchestra on his own. He lit up the lives of others and though we will miss him deeply, we will never forget our mate and comrade Charlie. The world is poorer, we are all diminished and we are going to miss him - but we will never forget him. Phil Glendenning National President Australians for Native Title and Reconciliation
Phillip Gleeso friend February 25, 2007	The Comet Many many heartfelt & passionate words have been written here about the Charlie we knew. And they are all true. A memory of him lingers, and resonates in my heart - with a sometimes deafening, sometimes silent roar. Charlie was a man whose SMILE travelled breakthrough in our lives. More important, his smile defined the man, a person so genuine that now - the pain quietly remains. Yet his was a smile that also affirmed everybody he knew. He made us feel worthwhile, in fact valuable - just by being the person he was. And now? I've foung it hard to grieve, there's just a block of sad. Maybe because - his smile lives.
Phillip Gleeson HCCA/HCCA - Friend February 25, 2007	my coping mechanism is that you are still in us all
Prue Borrman February 25, 2007	I first met Charlie when he started work at ACTCOSS. He came out to visit me at the Health Care Consumers Association office at the Pearce Community Centre and we talked about the health consumer movement and how he came to be working at ACTCOSS. He took time to understand where I was coming from and I found an instant ally. He embraced and challenged my ideas and we started to work together to broaden the involvement of health consumers in the community in couple of areas through ACTCOSS, something I had wanted to do for some time. I felt far less isolated as a sole worker in one of the many community organisations in the ACT and was very pleased to work with Charlie who picked up and worked with my enthusiasm. He had great respect for others. That's what Charlie did so well, he saw the big picture, drew the threads together and then worked actively to create and build connections. I valued his sharp intellect, the challenges, insight, warmth and vision, his inclusive approach to everything: in a nutshell his courage and leadership. In between sadness and disbelief at Charlies passing I have also had a very strong sense that Charlie is OK. That the strength of his spirit continues to connect with all that knew him. He connected and will continue to connect so that we work for a fairer, just and more loving world. I treasure the memories and send my love to Pam, Ana Lena, Bec, Bella, Tina, Kari and Christine, family and friends.
Randy Arnst Vientiane Laos February 25, 2007	Over the years, I enjoyed a number of Swedish Christmas dinners with Charlie, his family and friends. The food was wonderful, but the real memories are of the company. Charlie brought people together, and he inspired, impelled, counseled and cajoled us onward and upward. In some 12 years of knowing Charlie, I cannot recall even one negative memory (except maybe a few mornings after particularly fervent "social-political summits"). Words that keep coming include endless energy, constructive outrage, selfless leadership, eternal optimism and open-hearted friendship. I don't know what follows this life, but can't help but believe that Charlie has put his keen eye to the situation, made plans, gathered resources, and is organising to make it better. But I will miss him deeply. Godspeed, Charlie.
Rapin Quinn worked with Charlie at the Canberra-based Mekong Group February 25, 2007	My dear Pam, I was shocked and devastated when Ruth called to inform me of Charlie’s death in Samoa. It’s difficult for me to believe what I heard as we had met just before Christmas! Peter and I would nevertheless like to condole with you and extend our deepest sympathy to Christine, Tina, Kari and Charlie’s family. We have lost a dear friend, one of the finest social activists, who had spent his entire life to campaign for the ‘public interest’. We will forever remember Charlie for his unconditional dedication to eliminate the plight of the poor. Whilst at the Canberra-based Mekong Group, his persuasive campaign against dam constructions (especially Nam Teon II) in Laos was a case in point. His Higginbotham house was often full of social-concerned visitors from all over the world. He was indeed a borderless and people-centred person. Always energetic and delightful! We will also remember that Charlie only ‘passed away’. May God take care of his soul while he’s having a rest. And we hope peace be with you, Pam. Your friends, Lek & Peter Quinn Ph: 6240-9095 (w); 6248-7891 (h) Email: rapin.quinn@dest.gov.au
Richard Stadlwieser His last Cuso cooperant, Lao dam issues, freind February 25, 2007	Dear freinds and family of Charlie Last night I lit one of my remaining Lao budhist candles, after I got up at 3:00 am to do the global toast to a dear freind charlie. It is strange to think of someone I knew so well for 2.5 years in Laos and then never physically contacted afterwards. However the truth is he was a great freind. I greatly loved Charlie and the moments with charlie. I was actually the last cooperant that Charlie had during his tenure as country representative. I remember when I first started at CUSO and he lived with Christine and his dear two daughters in the CUSO house. It now seems unusual to imagine but in the immediate period after arriving at CUSO, I stayed at Denis house but without any uncomfortableness I would bike in the morning to have Papaya breakfst with Charlie and his family. This is some sign of the graciousness and outward kindness of Charlie. It is a tribute to him how something that I think is quite uncommon could feel so natural, welcoming, and pleasant. In those years I learnt to know something called a Charlie moment. A little smile, a little touch of kindness or support in the heat of a discussion, small crisis or fun moment. Also, you saw Charlie working with people for people. He listened, he learnt, he beleived and he would become committed to that issue then and there, forever it seemed like. I greatly offer all my support, condolences and words of tribute, love and respect to everyone but especially Charlie's partner, and Christine and Charlies two daughters. I part by saying that Charlie remained a freind to so many during long periods of absence because he touched us so deeply in such a kind, gentle strong manner. He became a part of us through the knowledge of his kindness, fun loving, wisdom, mentoring, dedication and humanity. His smile seemed ever present in one's memory. I have so often looked at a small book of "Uncle Ho's" poems that Charlie brought to me unexpectedly as a present after a trip to Vietnam. Whenever I saw or read that book of poems Charlie was with me smiling in his special way. The next time I read that book of poems I am certain Charlie will still be smiling beside me. His passing away is a great sadness but his ever presence is a great joy and tribute to one dedicated inteligent kind freind. Again, all my condolences to everyone. LOVE Richard
Robin Davidson Through Community Aid Abroad February 25, 2007	For Charlie Rivers and oceans run currents deep Flotsam sinks for the ocean to keep But why Charlie? There are sex tourists trawling the broken coast of Sri Lanka, while the pickings are even cheaper; There are thin-hearted men, in suits to feed a village, who see nothing without counting it, and what isn’t profit is waste; Take one of them, not Charlie. Rivers and oceans run currents deep Questions and answers the oceans keep And why now? While a tsunami of greed engulfs the world, leaving lives in ruin round the globe; and we who dwell in privilege are left drowning in words like value-added, profit-driven, collateral damage, internal security, down-sizing and rationalisation; and gasp for words like love and justice; when we need all hands on deck to keep our flotilla of hope afloat; and your hands were strong, Charlie. Rivers and oceans run currents deep Mysteries roll in the seas of our sleep ‘We should see more of each other this year’ you said to me, As we breakfasted on the first of January; And I felt the smooth strength in your words, like warm river rocks; but the mooring rope’s snapped and you’re over the horizon now. Rivers and oceans run currents deep Tears are to shed and not to keep I don’t want to turn you into merely an activist: a tea towel print of Che Guevara; you were father, lover, friend, practitioner of yoga, drinker of wine and lover of nature; but your genius lay in these being all one thing in you: the same spontaneous gesture of compassion that produced a demonstration or a hug, a meeting or a party, a newsletter or a cup of coffee. There is a ragged hole in want of filling, I hold no magic to add more hours to a day, And cannot live on as little sleep as you; But by your inspiration I will try and love harder. Love and courage run currents deep And arms hold firm though the hours we weep. Robin Davidson
Robin Hooper Friend February 25, 2007	Some words for Charlie..... Flashes of a smile with that touch mischeviousness - remain - A young boy's face - snap! its gone - inquisitive eyes under brow. frenetic energy - pace,pace,pacing about -stop- and laugh! frenetic again.... Standing here, on a warm Nicaraguan day, miles away An island sea takes away Arms outstretched I watch the cloudless blue sky the smile, I cock my head, he walks away.... Rest in Peace Peaceful one Robin Hooper Managua, Nicaragua
Robyn Culver February 25, 2007	We all walk through the world connected, yet some of us never touch another. Charlie touched all he met - what a better world for his being in it. What an overcast world it will be without him. We can only hope that his compassion and courage will find its place into hearts that have the will to continue his work.
Robyn Sirr through CAA Pam and community sector work February 25, 2007	Charlie, I have checked in numerous times to this website, still unbelieving that you are dead. Why why why – no answer. My heart goes out to Pam and your family. I haven’t yet met your girls, but I remember how you glowed when you spoke of them. What is with me is a strong sense of the quality of presence you brought to conversations, the clear thinking, positive we-can-do attitude, your big smile and laughter. You were a comforting taken-for-granted strong presence in my community – knowing that you were there, contributing with honesty, thoughtfulness and energy on numerous fronts. Reading the tributes and reflections by your friends here is helpful – renews my sense of a global network of people with great values, who attempt to act accordingly; and this will go on, as Dan Stubbs says, ultimately the better for knowing you. Another friend said somewhere on this site – yes there are torturers and yes there are also musicians. After reading others’ accounts here, it’s clearer than ever that you made lots of great music, in many places, with and for many people. I don’t have your energy Charlie – but you will inspire me to persist with renewed determination - to find my ways of adding to the music.
Ron Forrester Fellow candidate in ACT Assembly Election 2004 February 25, 2007	As another candidate in the Assembly election last year, I shared the stage with Charlie on a number of occassions. I have to say that I found him to be a thoroughly decent bloke, with a sense of humour and yet passionate about his issues. He was obviously well read and I think would have made a very good Member. I was shocked to hear of his death and would like to pass my sincere best wishes to his family.
Ronni Martin friend and colleague [CAA] February 25, 2007	I have been struggling to find words to remember Charlie by, words which are not trite, which he would have hated. Some words are solidarity; justice and rights for everyone; freedom to follow your dreams as well as to meet your needs; small is often the most effective. Charlie acted on his convictions: the Mekong flows freer, Australians are more reconciled with each other, the environment is regenerating, because he stood up to be counted. He was able to balance love with outrage. In coming years I hope Pam, his daughters and family will take comfort in the fact that Charlie was a unique person who made a difference to the world as well as to the lives of all of us who shared a little of his support and passion. Farewell Comrade, you live on in our memories.
Rose Costelloe colleague February 25, 2007	Dear Pam, Tina, Kari, Christine, Anna Lena, Ragna and Andrew I am so very sorry about Charlie's death and the immense loss to you of a dearest loved one. Thinking of you in sadness Rose
Ruth Belben Friend and colleague OCAA February 25, 2007	I felt so sad when I heard of Charlie's accident. He was an inspiration to me and others in the Perth office during my time at OCAA. When I met with him and Pam just a year ago in Canberra he was so energietc and enthusiastic about the challenges that lay ahead. Charlie achieved so much but he also had so much more to give and I am finding it hard to come to terms with the fact that his life has been cut short. Pam, my heart breaks for you. You have suffered so much already and to now lose your loving partner is an unthinkable tragedy. My love goes out to you, your daughters and Charlie's family and at 6pm Perth time tomorrow I will be rasing a glass to Charlie.
Sagar Friend - through CAA and ANTaR February 25, 2007	I knew about Charlie before I met him. I had come across the work he was doing about the Mekong and read some of what he had written. I was also being bombarded by emails from a Charlie Pahlman on many CAA issues. I was so impressed by this man that I was eager to get to know him, which I eventually did. As I spent many hours in CAA meetings and social gatherings where Charlie was present, I was greatly drawn to this man as the ideal activist that I would myself like to be, but I knew I never could. From the few campaigns I have participated in the four countries I have lived (India, UK, Germany and Australia), I have learnt to recognise and admire the hard core, quiet activists, whose utter devotion, personal character and love of humanity are so vital for achieving a better world. It is a privilege to have known Charlie and be comforted that there is yet hope for this world. His premature death is not only a loss for society, but a personal loss for all of us who had known him, his love, gentleness and humour. If Charlie had struck such a deep chord in me, I cannot imagine what a loss it must be for his family who have known him so closely for so long. My deepest condolences go to them.
Sal and Al Durno Friends February 25, 2007	We met Charlie and his family in Bangkok through our daughter Janet Durno in the early 1990's. We all enjoyed a great evening at the Bamford's home. Charlie stayed with us when he came to Edmonton to attend an environmental conference. His lively chatter and great smile are unforgettable features which we often recall. We all enjoyed a visit to the Farmer's market in Edmonton's Strathcona area. Our condolences go to all who were close to him. Sal and Al Durno
Saleena Hawkesbury February 25, 2007	Charles was one of our Hawkesbury College group, a serious party man and older than some of us. I really got to know him when Charles, Mark and I spent our prac together, three months at Summerland House with No Steps, Alstonville. A lot of funny stories there...Charles had a car. He was also a great cook. There wasn't much he wouldn't try, once. We went to the local markets, to the beach, walked through the forests, met up with local characters and went to alternative gigs - for very conservative kid (that's me, not Charles),it was all a fantastic adventure. Back at Hawkesbury, some wonderful wonderful evenings were spent at Wheenie Creek where groups of friends, would have fantastic vegetarian meals and we would talk and talk about Things That Mattered and all go out and look at the stars and smell the woodsmoke and hear the forest-silence - it made the somewhat hazardous trip down a remarkably steep dirt track in the State Forest, well worth it. And I remember when I was suffering heartbreak, and thought (as you do) that I would never recover, he was a very wise and compassionate friend. I have another memory: attending an anti-nuclear rally with Charles in about 1983 or 84. In Sydney - I have these fantastic black and white pictures I took of the rally. Too be honest, at 18 or 19 I don't know how much I really thought about the issue or even that I was that committed to it - but it was hard to be around Charles and not be drawn in. His passionate energy was contagious. And it has left his mark on all of us.
Sammy Engel Friend and colleague, ACTCOSS February 25, 2007	Charlie – It has been nearly a week now since I found out about your tragic accident. I, as we all were at ACTCOSS, were in total disbelief and spent many of the following days in a trance, trying to wake up from a terrible dream. I am still in total shock and fear I will be in denial for some time to come. The office is just not the same without you, and I am still in the mind frame that on Monday morning, you will bounce through the office, with photos and stories about your wonderful holiday. I take comfort in all my fond memories of you. I met you as a mere teenager, 3 or so years ago at the ACTCOSS office. You were so friendly to me and we sussed each other out pretty quickly, I knew I was going to have fun with you. You always had such a smile on your face. We have shared many laughs together, oh your laugh, I just can’t seem to get it out of my head. My most recent memory of you is at the ACTCOSS Christmas party in December 2004. We were all at your place having yet another famous gathering. Drinking, swapping secret Santa’s, celebrating the year that had passed us by. I, in my drunken state, decided it would be a great idea to paint your face … and you obliged. Rudolf, with a red nose and antlers, was what you were supposed to look like. I got a little carried away and also painted on some lush, red lips. You didn’t mind, and when the face painting was done, we continued to talk and let the night pass us by. A little while later, you went to the bathroom and came back laughing with a smile on you face, you said to the party, ‘no wonder no one can take us seriously, look at my face hahahahahahah’. Click to see face Charlie, words can not express you, your life, your journey. I write these words as my way of celebrating you. I shed tears for you: Tears of loss – its just doesn’t seem fair; Tears of sorrow – for the many loved friends and family; Tears of pain – for Tina Kari, your girls are so beautiful and resilient, you have let them with a legacy, they will be strong for you, I fully believe in them; Finally, tears of happiness – for me, as I remember and always will remember you Charlie, Chuck, Wood Chuck Chuck, Yes Sir (the way I pronounce your Swedish name Gosta) Here’s to you Chuck, to you on your next journey, may it be as beautiful as you are. Love, Sammy
Sean Downes and Helen Woittiez ACT Greens - we were both on the election campaign team with Charlie February 25, 2007	Dear Charlie Your happy positive energy lit up every room you walked into, every space you were in. We feel so lucky to have known you, so sad it wasn't for many years longer. We miss you, we will never forget you. Wherever you are, be at peace. Sean and Helen
Shalmali February 25, 2007	What do you do when an essential part of your life goes into another world? You try and connect with him in any world where he goes to. Charlie, you are everywhere, in the journeys I make, the food I eat, the struggles I join, the fights I have and the people and things I love and enjoy. You will always be with me and I hope, I will always be with you. Thank you for being a part of my life and for teaching me all that you have done. You still teach and inspire me, and I will always love you.
Shawn Taylor Colleague with CUSO Thailand, 1987 February 25, 2007	So terribly sorry to hear of Charlie's passing - he was a true free spirit. It's been nearly 18 years since I sold Charlie my old Yamaha motorcycle - all 125 cc of throbbing power. Willy Bourne and I lived, worked and partied in ChiangMai thailand when Charlie first arrived in country. My (now)wife Opa and I met Charlie in Hua Hin during his language training, frollicked on the beach and ate highway chicken in the night market. He showed up in ChiangMai shortly before I left my posting to take over my bike. He had never started or ridden a motorcycle before but after a 10 minute lesson, a few stiff shots of Mehkong whiskey, Charlie crammed on my helmet and headed out for Nan Province where he was posted. It was getting dark, about to rain and he was facing at least 8 hours over the mountains. I don't know how he ever made it home to Nan, but I'm glad he did, because seeing all these wonderful tributes, shows me what a special person he became over the years in Thailand and Laos. Chok Dee Charlie.
Sheena Dadge February 25, 2007	" KIND WORDS CAN BE SHORT AND EASY TO SPEAK, BUT THERE ECHOES ARE ENDLESS." Mother Theresa (1910)
SiewGim McGregor Met Charlie through Work for Change group February 25, 2007	I will always remember the great smile and optimistic outlook to just about everything. Charlie's "can do" attitude certainly got a lot of good things started and going. The world of social justice and Greens will be poorer without Charlie. My deepest sympathy to Pam, his children and other family members. You will be missed.
Simon Troman both worked on overseas development projects, both active in local politics February 25, 2007	Thank you Charlie. Travel well.
Soli Middleby February 25, 2007	I first met Charlie as a slightly starry-eyed student. He welcomed me into his home and generously shared his thoughts, his enthusiam and his idealism with me. I found Charlie's view of the world both inspiring and infectious and feel blessed to have felt his positive influence. I was so sad to hear of the early loss of Charlie and send my deepest sympathy to all his loved ones. x
Somsak Soonthornnawaphat Friend of Charlie on CAA, ACT Mekong Group, and close friend February 25, 2007	Charlie is my best friend. During my time in Canberra, I so glad to joint him on the Mekong River campaigning and personal contact. He is very helpful, generious and friendly to everyone. We always meet each other regulary and getting deeper for our friendship. During new year eve, I was on my holiday at Canberra and was invited by Charlie to have a party at his house with other friends. It was cold summer night but warm with fire party at his back yard. We stayed till late of the night and finally, I was sleep at his house. Charlie and I were wake up a bit early and I helped him clean up the back yard and washing dishes and glassess. Charlie washing and I drying up and we were talking to manything; Tsunami, politic, works, life and many many more. On 7 January 2005, I, my son Rome, my daughter Jasmin met him again at his office before I go back to Thailand. We went to have lunch at Campbell local shop. He bought us a lunch and I bought him an icecream. The chair at the front of shop is full. Therefore, we just sit near playing ground on behind of the shop. My daughter was very enjoy playing at the playground after lunch with a lot of helps from Charlie. After that I took him to the office, he gave me one of the Tiwi Children Calendar 2005. He also write note to Eang one of his friend in Thailand. He asked me to pass one of the big Aboriginal book and same calendar I got to Eang as well. "Please tell everyone at TERRA I miss all of them, I miss TERRA, I miss Mekong very much, My next holiday trip would be Mekong River" he said to me. He told me he will go for holiday in Pacific Islands on 13 January with his family for two week. I asked him "what is the season in Pacific Islands?" He replied to me that "it is not good season for holiday but it is not serious forecasting". I will try to finish many things at work before go for holiday..he told me. Yes, I think so and look very busy for him. Finally, time to say good bye with a big hug from him. I never knew, that was last hug from him and last seen charlie for me. Charlie, you are a very special friend for me. I love you, will miss you and will remember of you. You will be always my friend forever. Somsak 2 February 2005/Thailand.
Steve Jacobson Friend through brother Andrew and sister-in-law Anna-Marie February 25, 2007	Julie and I met Charlie through his brother Andrew. As new immigrants from South Africa, Charlie and Andrew’s family had “adopted” us in ’95. On his return to Aus from Laos, Charlie simply slotted in to this adoption regime and in 2001, we spent a wonderful Christmas with him, all of his girls, Anna Lena, Andrew and Anna-Marie, their girls and our girls (no shortage of girls…) in Canberra. Having read most the tributes to date, I have laughed and I have cried and find it warming to reflect on our Christmas eve in the context of the Charlie-picture woven from all these words. There was the:  Very Swedish, organised Charlie who planned and delegated who was to buy presents for whom (and write a poem for that person)  Frugal non-wasteful Charlie who set a modest limit on the value of the presents  Catering Charlie, who put on a superb spread  Ironic, playful Charlie, who asked the Jewish boy (me) to be Santa  Hospitable, welcoming Charlie who provided us with beds, great music, late night laughter and tea To Charlie’s incredible family and friends, I wish you light and I wish you Long Life. May you be comforted by each other and by the exceptional legacy built by an exceptional human being.
Stewart Potten Former CAA Colleague February 25, 2007	I didn't know Charlie all that well but I felt his genuine warmth and hospitality when I first travelled to Canberra to mee the CAA team. I remember the evening well. Pam, Charlie, Tunya and the girls plus the dog welcomed me into their home and eased my anxiety.Good CAA hospitality on a cold winters night. It was immediately evident that Charlie had strong passionate views and vision but the thing that impressed me was his compassion for the "forgotten People" or in the Australian idiom the "battlers" During the tough times when the Canberra office was closing he was never resentful or angry toward me even though quite often I was the harbinger of bad news. At the farewell bash for the Canberra staff I made a reference to Charlie with the following quote "that if everyone thinks the same, nobody thinks" We need people like Charlie. To keep thinking and putting forward ideas and a better vision for the future. My heart goes out to Pam and the girls and their families. We'll raise our glasses tonight in the Top End to a great person and a good bloke. Cheers Stewart
Stuart Stark Friend February 25, 2007	The day after the ACT election a group of friends were at his house - disappointed that Charlie hadn't won a seat. After a while (and after cooking everyone breakfast) Charlie seemed to look out into the garden and think "I've got some time spare ..." found a spade and tidied up the edges of the garden bed surrounding the Apricot tree. We continued wallowing. One of many good things to remember about Charlie: he kept going. Charlie: So many beings (people, dogs, horses and rivers ...) are lucky to have known you. A part of me feels like we've lost you. Another part is grateful that we had you. Another part knows you're still here. Thanks for that postcard, btw, your sense of irony and timing remain perfect.
Sue Wareham fellow Green February 25, 2007	Farewell to one of those who makes me proud to be human. I didn't have the pleasure of knowing Charlie very well but know of his passion for the common good. The light from such people lives on. His time here was too short, but we are all blessed by it. My sincere condolences to Charlie's family and other loved ones. Sue Wareham
Tanya Mark Family friend February 25, 2007	You and I met when we were teenagers Charlie, sometime in the early seventies. Anna Lena and I cannot remember exactly how many years we have known each other – at least thirty. We’ve had many pleasant New Year celebrations with your family, starting in Grand Haven. I always admired your directness, clarity of vision, unflinching honesty and integrity and your ability to engage with and connect people of all backgrounds and beliefs with respect and honour – as you are respected and honoured by all who have had the pleasure of knowing you. Your absence, Charlie, is difficult to understand. Your passion for life and all that is right and worth striving for will not be lost. I remember asking why you wanted to work overseas outside the (then) Freedom from Hunger office in Sydney in 1984 (maybe earlier) and being mesmerised by your cogent reply, which motivated me to start working in development overseas. You never lost your vision for a better world. How you managed to incorporate the many facets of your life whilst still maintaining the energy, time, love, support and sheer joy for all your family – amazes me! You have been an exemplary role model and mentor for both myself and my son Daniel. It has been an honour, pleasure and privilege to have known you and your family for a generation. Although I didn’t tell you often enough how highly I regarded you, Anna Lena heard me say many times how proud she must be of you and what a wonderful person you are. I cannot describe in words the void that we face without you. We miss you Charlie and will do our best to support those who love and touched you so much – as you have done for us. Until we meet again ... my dear friend, Tanya (proud to be called an honorary Swede), Daniel and Bob. Courageous, compassionate Heroic, humane Articulate, achieving Respectful, resolute Loving, leading Inspirational, insightful Exceptional, enthusiastic and ever with us ...
Tina Wittsell Charlies cousin Tina in Sweden February 25, 2007	Dearest cousin Gösta! You will always be Gösta to me! I write as I spoke/wrote directly to you, because that’s what I have been doing since Anders (Andrew) phoned me Saturday morning, and that’s what I’ve been doing during many years. For long time (many years ago) we wrote long, long letters to each other, expressing how we thought and looked at things in life, and about what’s happened in our lives. My ongoing inner dialogue with you will not stop! We, Tomas and me were guests at Christine’s, Yours, Tina and Kari’s house in Laos Christmas 1995. The generosity and warmth we met at Your home and the fascinating trip to the small Lao village that also welcomed us with great generosity. This Sunday I found the photography of You and me from 1961 at a blanket, I looked after you because I was “so caring” and you so new in the world! Our last mail contact was in late October 2004, you seemed to look forward to what future should bring, and wrote that you further on wanted to come visit us in Sweden and maybe You should have time the to go up north with us to our house in Vindeln. I was so happy about that and I had my own future plans to come visiting You, Tina, Kari, Pam, Anna-Lena, Andrew, Anna-Maria, Christine and.... with my both sons Axel and Lukas. Our Grandmother, Anna-Stina told me (and maybe you too) very often “He whom the gods love dies young” (here Anna-Stina stopped) but it goes on with: “whilst he is full of health, perception, and judgment”. You certainly died too young, full of health, perception and judgement. I will miss You, go on having an inner dialogue with You and I’m one of the many lucky people who could call You a close and very loved friend. My thoughts is with you Tina and Kari. With you Anna-Lena, Andrew (Anders) Pam, Christine and many, many more of Charles friends. Goodbye Cousin Tina
Tracey Martin friend in Laos February 25, 2007	Charlie helped to introduce me to the intricacies of development in Laos. His optimism and enthusiasm was unbounded. When i met him a few years ago at a CUSO/VSO new volunteers'party he was the same as ever, with his trademark shoulder bag and his constant smile. He will be sorely missed but has a place in many hearts.
Trish Hepworth OCAA February 25, 2007	Charlie, you managed to combine idealism and realism, an amazing achievement. By living your principles and not just preaching them you made a deep impact on me, and so many more people. Having read through the tributes I am saddened immensely by the pain and loss that people are suffering. However I also see it as a triumph, a testimony to the great influence you have had, all over the world, in such a short time. I still remember searching you out to convert friends who wanted to dismiss world aid or Green politics as useless and insane. Your ability to listen and communicate could touch people you'd only just met. Most of all your wish and belief in a better world made people want to be better, by treating people as decent, kind beings you made them automatically want to live up to that standard. The loss is great, and my sympathy goes out to all those who have lost such an important part of their lives. At the same time I celebrate the fact that we were blessed to have you in the first place, and that your memory and works will live on as a living tribute.
Tunya Struzina Colleague at CAA and friend February 25, 2007	Charlie, Charlie, charlie (as Pam would say) When I was in the CAA office, full of organising Gemini women, there was one very special man it is hard to say why it always felt like coming home when you saw Charlie, he always had the space to acknowledge you and give you that intense Charlie look meaning he really wanted to KNOW how your were and with full honesty he would tell you how he was (I had a knack of telling him how well he looked after he had a sleepless night - we always had a laugh over that) somehow Charlie's face had an expression that told a story of joy and seriousness at the same time - he never forgot the plight of others but he never forgot to laugh Charlie always encouraged others, he urged us to bring out strengths and skills he knew we had, he wanted us to take responsibility, be all we could be, and find our own power (I think this is what is so special about his style of parenting) Charlie hated hierarchy. Memories of Charlie - everything is reminding me of Charlie right now but the memories that are fresh now are how beautiful and full of life he was when I saw him at Christmas time He was in his absolute element as he lovingly welcomed Steve & I into his home for his family Swedish Christmas Eve. He was happiest when the doors to his house were wide open. We went for a swim at the river a few days later - a chat with Charlie in extreme yoga poses, Charlie jumping out of the river with the same boundless energy as Skip the dog. He spoke with such passion about running for the Greens - he seemed to have a new vigour and vision. I can still feel your farewell hug Charlie, and I hear your message to breathe deeply The river Charlie has flowed through all our lives and made us so much richer such rivers do not dry up, they continue to flow through us
Virginia Newell February 25, 2007	We heard the news of Charlie's death last Friday and like so many other people who have already paid tribute - I just couldn't comprehend the news – didn’t want to believe it was true. The last time I saw Charlie was down in Canberra the weekend little Johnnie was re-elected – so depressing – so good to be able to talk it through with Charlie. Charlie was an inspirer – an empowerer – he lived a big bold life and encouraged others (me!) to do likewise. Last Saturday 8 people turned up to a hateful anti-Sudanese refugees rally in Newcastle and over 3,000 attended the counter-protest organised at short notice by local community groups. A victory for the good guys. But when someone got up and sang 'Blowin' in the Wind' and the crowd joined in - my insides ached and the tears flowed for Charlie - we have lost such wonderful man in such tragic circumstances. Virginia
Winnunga Nimmityjah Aboriginal Health Service Winnunga Nimmityjah AHS has had long association with Charlie February 25, 2007	The Board CEO and staff of the Winnunga Nimmityjah AHS send our sincere condolences to Anna and the family. Charlie will be sadly missed by us all. If there is anything that Winnunga can do to assist/support the family please let me know. Yours sincerely Julie Tongs CEO
Wittsell cousins February 25, 2007	Tonight, monday (10 hours later than Canberra time) we are gathering with our families here in Stockholm in order to Honour the Life of our cousin Gösta/Charlie. It is a strange sensation of lost. Even though Gösta was even before this tragical accident far away from our every day life here in Sweden he was a person who we all estimated as one of those truly good guys in this world! What a lost! So here we are sharing a meal, and our very different and dear memories of Gösta. Our thoughts are especially with those of you who shared your every day life with him...we cant even imagine what your lost might be like... We send you all our love Cousin Tina Wittsell with her sons Axel and Lukas Cousin Mia (Maria) Malby with her husband Eric and her children Clara and Hugo Cousin Adam with his girlfriend Carolin A contribution will be made from us all as well as from cousin Sven Wittsell (who lives in the south of Sweden) with his daughters Julia and Louise and Tomas Ottoson (the father of Axel and Lukas) to one of those projects that were of great importance för Gösta/Charlie.
Wolfgang Pahlmann Family name cousin and brother in mind February 25, 2007	Tributes and respects to Charlie Pahlman from German Green Party to a great green fighter for better world of all live beings!
margie law friend, colleague February 25, 2007	Tribute to Charlie Charlie, Thank you for being a good friend all these years. I loved how you were always interested to hear other perspectives, debate, ponder, imagine, agree, disagree, open another bottle of red and talk some more. Your passion about “social justice” issues incorporated the rainbow – aid and development, indigenous Australians, poverty, individual relationships. And I loved how your passion cut through poorly-boxed concepts to explore the real meanings and the relationships within concepts. You could not use any of these words without clarifying what you meant, to assure there were no assumptions made. In this way you were so inspiring. And yet, like most of us, your energy waxed and waned and sometimes you struggled with direction and with your decisions. That was natural, but again, you struggled in a most noble way, questioning, listening, waiting, and therefore also inspiring. A true leader. Through Community Aid Abroad, ANTaR, TERRA and The Greens we’ve shared so much laughter, frustration, stories, and hard work. And red wine and beer with ice cubes in it (Thailand). I was really pleased that you ran as a Green, you would have been a superb politician, and just what the Greens need. When we’d catch up in Canberra, Hobart or Bangkok, we’d swap photos and stories of family, work, holidays. Your delight as a father was always obvious as you would tell stories of Tina and Kari’s adventures. So was your love of Pam, your gorgeous soul mate. And you were so enthusiastically happy for me when I was happy, and understanding when I was sad. Your shoulder might have been a boney one to cry on, but it was nevertheless comforting. As I come to terms that your shoulder is no longer here physically for me, my thoughts are constantly with Pam, Tina, Kari, Christine, Anna Lena and Andrew and his family, who relied on your love so much more than I did. I can hear your voice Charlie, that deep throaty voice, still challenging me to explore my thoughts. And telling stories. And laughing. I hope you will remain with me. Thank you Charlie. Margie
valerie sapin went through Hawkesbury Ag College together with Christine and Charlie February 25, 2007	Like many others I met Christine and later Charlie at Hawkesbury Agricultural Collegein the early 80s. We started the course in 1982 and Charlie joined us around 1983 and 1984. Studying and socialising for that time makes you keep some strong ties over the years. What I remember of him then is that Charles (at we called him then) opened and managed a vegetarian restaurant with a friend Mark. We use to go as a crowd very often to celebrate and hang out. Their home in the blue mountains (Wheenie Ck) was down in the bush at the end of a long and steep dirt track. It often hosted our gatherings as well and was a wonderful retreat amongst the trees and the bush in the dark winter nights. I remember his cooking the stove and his choice of flavoursome ingredients things that make a dinner full of sensual flavours and friendship. Charles also had an interest in developing countries and we started a discussion group then. I left the country for Europe then Africa to meet up with Christine and now Charlie in Laos 12 years later. I turned up on their doorstep in Ventianne absolutely unannounced as phone numbers had changed and I was travelling from Cambodia with limited ability to be in touch. I can still recall Charlie's surprise as I stood on a chair in his office when he walked in. Then it was as if we had just left the discussion group the previous day and we went to talk about his work and that of Christine in Laos.The new Australian Bridge over the Mekong was just finished then and Charles had concerns about the potential economic and social impacts on the country as Laos was going to become a highway to link Thailand to China with myriads of trucks to go through. He gave me a book about the Mekong; A great book called "the Mekong Currrency" a very well documented and informative book about the hardship of the people in the different countries along that great river. Two years later we also bumped into each other by chance in Vietnam in front of the Australian embassy where Christine was coming for her interview with Ausaid. Again we just went out to a nice vegetarian restaurant to catch up on things. Many people have paid tribute to Charlie for his work and dedication. Personnaly I knew I was always going to be challenged when I was talking with him; challenged but never in an intimidating fashion. Challenged to think differently and to be more aware of some realities and their implications for us all as a human race. That's why I also want to pay tribute to Christine for her understanding of his sense of duty, passions and obligations to others, his constant rebellions against a certain state of play, and for the sacrifices that that demanded on her and on the girls. Still being so close and so strong as a family despite the separation and all this myriad of activities is a tribute to both of them, to all of them. When the phone rang from Canberra through Michael Constable, then suddenly we were all back together 22 years ago; Sally, Steve who was going to email Nico, Roseanne, Christine Reeves who rang Jacky and Mark; Ian and Anne Cantle also rang back having heard through Julie and Judy in Richmond. Suddenly we were all in touch again, talking again, deeply saddened for Christine's and Charlie's families. Studying together was an important part of our life because we were growing and discovering so much at the time. Christine and Charlie are part of that time for ever. Val (on behalf of many many college friends throughout the country and overseas who also want to express their heartfelt thanks to all of you for this web site and for the ability to share with all through this medium. I am sure Charlie would have liked that)

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